I?d like a bit of perspective on this please. I know we?re both tired and baby not sleeping isn?t helping, but I just feel that all my husband does at the moment is insult me. Yes I was p*ssed off that our baby was up again last night, but I just wanted a discussion about whether we should make baby stay in cot and cry it out or come in with us. This turned into a fight about work!
I?ve just gone back part-time and it?s been a bit of a shock to the system but I?m really enjoying it. He said something along the lines of ?oh just because you have to get up for work ? I?ve not stopped working!? as if I?ve sat on my arse for the last how many months.
He knows our child isn?t the easiest and in the past has admitted that there is no way on earth he could cope being at home with baby every day. It then escalates into a row about how ?of course you can still do all the housework on your days off ... (and here?s the corker that drove me bonkers!) ... because that?s the woman?s job!!! I was fuming! I do all the cleaning and washing etc and I?m knackered. I just said I?d maybe like a bit of help! I?d like to take my baby out on my days off but always feel there is something to be done in the house (and it never seems to look any tidier!).
In the light of day, I?m not as angry as I was at 2am, but his words and sexist pig opinions have really hurt. I just feel he sees me as ?the woman at home? when in reality my maternity pay paid half the mortgage and so will the pay from my part-time job so I?m hardly a kept woman , shopping and lunching every day!
Is he being unreasonable or am I?
AIBU?
AIBU or is he? Work/housework etc row
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