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To expect that women attending forum meets don't need to bring their husbands?

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Vagfresh Wed 24-Oct-12 08:52:48

The members who chat are all women. When arranging a forum meet shouldn't those attending be only the 'chattees'?

Fair enough to bring babies/small children along - but why a husband? Never 'chatted' online to said husband, and it does change the dynamics of the meet.

What do you think?

Everlong Wed 24-Oct-12 08:57:06

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

megandraper Wed 24-Oct-12 08:57:20

There are some husbands on the forum, aren't there? I have seen some men post.

I don't go to meets. If I did, I would need to bring DH, as I have a disability that restricts my mobility. Just saying.

NiffStipplesHauntsLaSenza Wed 24-Oct-12 08:57:22

I would think it's weird confused

merlottits Wed 24-Oct-12 08:58:42

Oh no, hate women who bring their husbands along. I wouldn't like it and it does change the dynamics.
My sister always tries to bring her DH to women stuff. She likes to be attached at the hip to him at all times.
Not for me. If people brought husbands I would be reluctant to attend...but I doubt anyone would care if I didn't show <shrugs>

NiffStipplesHauntsLaSenza Wed 24-Oct-12 08:58:45

Except in certain circumstances obviously

Sorry bedhopper blush

Katisha Wed 24-Oct-12 08:58:48

I would say it definitely affects the dynamic.

Petsinmyputridpudenda Wed 24-Oct-12 08:58:56

I've met a few mums from here and my dh came ' to drop me off' the nosey fucker just wanted to see what they were like.

YourHandInMyHand Wed 24-Oct-12 09:00:40

Why does he want to come?

It does affect the dynamic. I remember getting ready for a girls night out once and one of the girl's boyfriends had popped round. It did completely changed the dynamic and felt very odd.

megandraper Wed 24-Oct-12 09:01:06

No problem NiffS - I can see it seems odd - part of the reason I don't do stuff like this smile

Vagfresh Wed 24-Oct-12 09:01:15

It's not this forum. It is most definitely all women.

bed -fair enough if you have a disability.

I wouldn't want to take mine. He wouldn't 'know' anyone or what we are talking about.

EdithWeston Wed 24-Oct-12 09:01:25

If the MNetter s the man, then of course he should be there.

But if, as OP describes, he's third party, then it's a bit like bringing any other non-MNetter along whether you are related or not. If you need someone along for logistic reasons, perhaps introduce them maybe over one drink, then send them off to amuse themselves.

Or have specific OH creche?

LRDtheFeministDragon Wed 24-Oct-12 09:07:59

Ooh, I'd be quite curious to meet some posters' husbands! grin

It'd be brilliantly awkward, wouldn't it? 'Ah, hello, I remember you, your wife is the one who posted about your upsetting bottom trouble and the funny issue you had with losing your erection when the cat jumped on the bed! How nice to meet you!'

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Wed 24-Oct-12 09:18:06

I can see how it would change the dynamics, but I think it's understandable if its the first time someone has met a big group of people. They might not be confident enough to go it alone, that sort of thing scares the crap out of some people, no matter how much they want to do it.

I can't say I'd ever want to bring my DH to something like that, and it would probably be his idea of hell anyway.

It is most definitely all women

If you've met irl before then fair enough, you have a point. If you haven't, however, then I wouldn't have a problem with anyone belonging along a partner just in case. I've been on the receiving end of several internet trolls in my time, some of whom are extremely plausible and aren't caught out in their lies for years.

musicalendorphins Wed 24-Oct-12 09:25:45

Like Alex and Simon on The Real Housewives of NY. Ugh.

musicalendorphins Wed 24-Oct-12 09:26:56

(even though I do like Alex)

Mrsjay Wed 24-Oct-12 09:30:59

My friend brought her husband to an arranged all women other friends birthday weekend it was awkward,

Maybe the person you mets husband wanted to make sure you were not a hairy man pretending to be a woman grin

Vagfresh Wed 24-Oct-12 09:33:58

Yes music Alex and Simon go everywhere together, especially clothes shopping -puke.

Hmm Mrsjay maybe it IS the husband calling the shots. I hadn't considered that.

BadgersBottom Wed 24-Oct-12 09:42:49

Ah, hello, I remember you, your wife is the one who posted about your upsetting bottom trouble and the funny issue you had with losing your erection when the cat jumped on the bed!


<<<adds to list of 'scenarios I'd like to see'>>>

Vagfresh Wed 24-Oct-12 09:52:47

But Angeldelights I don't think a troll would meet up. Surely they can only lie behind the safety of the internet??

But I can see your point.

Mrsjay Wed 24-Oct-12 10:50:09

<<<adds to list of 'scenarios I'd like to see'>>>

OH so your the man who likes to wear the 'knickers' when you have an 'early night' Lovely to meet you grin

catgirl1976 Wed 24-Oct-12 10:53:20

I doubt mine could think of anything worse

Some people are like that

Maybe he was interested but it does sound a bit odd if he was not on the forums

Mrsjay Wed 24-Oct-12 10:57:03

MY husband is antisocial a little bit shy he would rather chew his right foot off than go and meet new people ,

ENormaSnob Wed 24-Oct-12 11:00:26

grin at lrd.

I think it's odd to say the least.

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