to think this ear-bashing was over the top

[whoneedssleepanyway]

OK I put my hands up, I forgot to tell my daughter's after school club that she wouldn't be attending today as she was being picked up by another parent (which her teacher was aware of and all happened as planned).

But I have just had the most massive ear bashing over the phone by one of the after school club carers about how I should have told them, they thought they had lost a child, had been searching and searching for her all over the school until one of the other children told them that she wasn't coming and how they were so worried they had lost a child. Now I admit I should have told them, but my understanding was they go and collect the children from the teacher, so if they didn't collect her (which they didn't) how could they think they had lost her if they never had her in the first place...? The teaching assistant and teacher knew she had gone home wtih another parent. My understanding is they go to collect the children from the teacher, so the impression I got was they got to the classroom realised they didn't have her by which time all the other kids had been collected and the teacher gone and then thought where was she, if they had checked they had all the children as they were picking them up from the teacher then they would have known she wasn't there....it is a small school.

Perfectly willing to be told IABU but I am not entirely sure why they thought they had lost a child that had never been handed over to them...

[ClippedPhoenix]

YANBU, blimey that's a bit OTT OP.

[Cahoots]

YANBU.
Silly afterschool carers!

[weeblueberry]

Rightly or wrongly...if I was really freaked out because I'd possibly lost a child (who, theoretically, could have walked out in between the changeover) I might have reacted the same way. She's likely done it out of panic rather than genuine anger and I suspect a lot of parents might act the same way were the situation the other way round.

But saying that I'm new to this parenting malarkey so what do I know lol.

[ShatnersBassoon]

YANBU. The teacher would have been their first port of call when trying to locate a child, so I don't believe they were hunting high and low for her. They just want to make you feel like you've inconvenienced them. Ignore them and ask them to check with a teacher before launching a manhunt next time a child isn't where they expect them to be.

[Startailoforangeandgold]

YANBU
Always ask the other DCs before panicking.

There is always one, like my DD2, who makes it their business to look out for everyone else.

DD2 is very useful and very irritating

[ObiWan]

It wasn't the most professional of phone calls, but I do sympathise with them.

Children do wander off. Unless they had been told otherwise by you (and it is your responsililty, not the teachers, to speak to your childs care providers), they would have expected to find your child at school, and would have been alarmed when she wasn't.

I'd find their searching etc. rather reasssuring, if you want a positive spin putting on things.