I am a qualified teacher. Dh is a London taxi driver. I went on maternity leave to have dd1 who has just turned 5 and haven't been back to work since as we have had 3 more dcs since then. Youngest now ten months.
I really would like to go back to work part time - probably in September when the eldest two are at school and dd3 in the nursery where you can pay £10 for them to stay all afternoon if you wish.
Asked dh about it and said as his job is flexible I could go back to work two days a week either next September leaving him with ds and school run two days a week or following year once ds in nursery.
He has said no as 'why should I get all the choices?' either I work full time or not at all.
I am being unfair expecting him to work and look after the dc while 'I fanny about doing whatever I like' (going back to teaching!)
So his view is either I don't work at all, work full time (don't want to do that as wouldn't see the kids hardly at all) or if I work two days a week then he also gets two full days a week 'doing what he likes' then works Friday - Sunday therefore giving us no family time.
So am I being unfair? I have stayed at home pretty much being a single parent while he studied to become a London cabbie and still am while he works and is studying to get the next stage.
I was under the impression that things would change wrt family time/time for me to go back to work once he finished (in about 2 more years)
Seems I was wrong...
Is there anyone out there who can give me advice on how they make it work working part time?
Help as he is making me feel like I'm being a spoilt princess about it all and I really don't feel iabu
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girlsyearapart · 22/10/2012 18:36
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