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Called in by Teacher. Aibu?

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dollywashers Mon 22-Oct-12 16:37:27

My eldest dd is 8. Her teacher called me aside today to 'have a word'. Apparently a few of the children were talking at wet play time about how babies were made (my dd did not bring topic up). There were various theories. My daughter said they were made from seeds from a man joining with an egg from a woman to grow a baby. Perfectly reasonable I thought. She doesn't actually know about the sex bit yet as hasn't asked. I suspect she thinks the woman eats the eggs :0! But I would be quite happy to tell her at 8 if she asked, age appropriately of course.

Anyway the teacher called me aside and was acting shocked that my daughter had said this. She stood waiting from a reaction from me. I said that I thought at 8 this was a perfectly normal thing for dd to say. She thought not and asked me to tell my dd bit to mention it again as other parents might not like it!! I was a bit too shocked to say anything at the time but thinking about it now it's made me really cross. It's hardly like she was giving the class a sex lesson for goodness sake. AIBU?

mumblechum1 Mon 22-Oct-12 16:38:20

YANBU. The teacher is odd.

Nanny0gg Mon 22-Oct-12 16:38:49

The teacher is a loon.
Don't worry.

Hullygully Mon 22-Oct-12 16:39:07


yousankmybattleship Mon 22-Oct-12 16:40:23

Teacher unhinged. Daughter perfectly fine and sensible. Hope that helps.

Hulababy Mon 22-Oct-12 16:40:28

YANBU and I am surprised that a teacher of children this age would be shocked by it either. IME many children of this age know it involves a seed and egg, some know the mechanics of it too. Is the teacher knew to working with children of this age?

IslaValargeone Mon 22-Oct-12 16:41:23

YANBU, numpty teacher.

corlan Mon 22-Oct-12 16:41:26

How strange!!

Your DD would count as uniformed at the primaries round here!!

Is the school run by some strange sect that forbids mention of sexual reproduction and teaches children that they're all delivered by storks?

Tailtwister Mon 22-Oct-12 16:42:49

That's strange! DS1 who is 4 knows the same information.

I think it was a perfectly fine thing for your daughter to say.

pictish Mon 22-Oct-12 16:43:03


Lonecatwithkitten Mon 22-Oct-12 16:43:43

Gosh my daughter this age knows all about penises and vaginas. She knew about egg and seed, but she asked how did the man dog get the seed in the right place. She then asked if it was the same for people which I confirmed. Oh yes she was 6 when we had this conversation.

youarewinning Mon 22-Oct-12 16:44:19

YANBU. My DS is also 8yo. He told me the other month he thought woman were a bit like plants as they had the seeds and the man had to fertilize it to grow a baby. grin

I have no idea where he got it from but felt it was a great explanation from an 8yo and certainly I would explain the facts of life to an 8yo in a way he could understand.

Teacher is odd - my friends DD also 8 (different school) has done some sex ed lessons already.

YellowDinosaur Mon 22-Oct-12 16:44:31

The teacher is being totally ridiculous! My 5 and 6 year olds have known this for over a year. If she had said the fairies put the baby into mums belly button she'd have a point but your dd was factually correct.

Personally I'd have a word with the head teacher as there is no way I would be telling my child not to talk about this and I would be shocked at the thought that the teacher might.

BonaDea Mon 22-Oct-12 16:44:35

YANBU. Take your DD to one side and encourage her to talk about it again and again. What a psycho.

DyeInTheEar Mon 22-Oct-12 16:45:02

YANBU. It's all seeds and eggs in this house.

You should have asked teacher if she / other parents were absolutely sure they understood how babies were made.

UC Mon 22-Oct-12 16:45:13

Teacher is mad. My 8 year old knows more than that. He has asked, and I have told him in 8 yr old language. He knows what willies are for in relation to babies, and he knows about periods and eggs. I always think if he asks a question, I should answer it honestly.

dollywashers Mon 22-Oct-12 16:45:25

It's a Catholic school. Teacher is used to the year group but a bit 'Miss Haversham'. Starting to wonder if she didn't know the eggs and the seeds bit herself!! Maybe she still thinks the stork brings babies.

Felicitywascold Mon 22-Oct-12 16:47:10

Yanbu. Teacher v. Odd.

<and I am almost always in the side of the teacher in these 'types' of threads.>

Hulababy Mon 22-Oct-12 16:48:10

Christmas pressie for teacher - Mummy Laid an Egg grin

CelineMcBean Mon 22-Oct-12 16:48:24

At my primary school we had sex education at 8 years old. It involved a bit of sperm and egg stuff, some babies in sacks etc but mainly a naked woman giving birth screaming and a family with teenage-ish children playing volleyball in the nip.

Teacher is a loon. My 4 year old knows about seeds and eggs and that babies grow in tummies. He is not a deviant.

izzywizzyisbizzy Mon 22-Oct-12 16:48:52

ridiculous of the teacher

FolkGhoul Mon 22-Oct-12 16:49:39

Crikey, well my daughter is 6 and after a recent 'the talk' thread on here I did in fact explain to my daughter exactly how babies are made and exactly how they come out again - I used a couple of brilliant explanations I read on MN - so thanks for that!

I was expecting some extra questioning and all I got was an "oh, really?!" and that was that!

So she can educate the whole KS1 playground now!

I do think the teacher was being very U.

That sounds like a perfectly age appropriate description your daughter gave.

VonScareBurton Mon 22-Oct-12 16:50:49

How bizarre. My ds would have, I'm sure, been a lot more 'graphic' as would most of his friends.

If that's what she said to you, I would go and inform the head. That's rediculous and she's clearly out of touch with children.

honoraglossop Mon 22-Oct-12 16:52:58

the teacher sounds a bit bonkers tbh
DS1 is the same age and if the conversation came up with his friends ( which I doubt very much as they are boys) then he would probably start using the words "penis" "uterus" and "vagina". That would probably cause steam to come out of that teachers ears or something!

I'm a doctor and use proper words and have answered any questions factually about how the body works including reproduction.

CelineMcBean Mon 22-Oct-12 16:53:24

Is this teacher a nun? I know they are not very keen on the mechanics of <<whispers>> biological reproduction.

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