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to think living in an affluent area can be very depressing

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whiteandyelloworchid Sun 21-Oct-12 17:17:21

everyone i'm surrounded by on a day to day basis, are wealthy, everyone is on about where they are going for half term, all of them are going abroad or somewhere lovely, and they have all been on several holidays throughout the year etc

they all have larges houses and plenty of spending money etc

i don't know i just find it depressing sometimes.

someone kick me up the arse

IneedAsockamnesty Sun 21-Oct-12 17:18:37

sends kick your way alongside wine

FermezLaBouche Sun 21-Oct-12 17:20:16

I agree with you 100% and often have to kick myself for feeling envious/sad about it. I am single and earn fairly ok money, but the vast, vast majority goes on just existing! I know I choose to live alone in a nice area so I can't complain, but it does seem shit sometimes.
Try not to compare lifestyles and focus on cheap things you genuinely enjoy. Tragically, mine is taking a tenner out on a Saturday morning and seeing what books/tat I can get from charity shops...

AKissIsNotAContract Sun 21-Oct-12 17:21:38

I think it's true, you are happier if you are one of the wealthiest in a poor area than one of the poorest in a wealthy area.

MrsTerryPratchett Sun 21-Oct-12 17:23:36

I used to have a group of friends who were all on 6 figures and I struggled along. However, they were all lovely and made allowances. Still it was depressing when they were all going skiing...

MrsjREwing Sun 21-Oct-12 17:24:02

Middle class people speak about travel, working class people speak about money.

AKissIsNotAContract Sun 21-Oct-12 17:25:42

Probably because working class people don't have as much money to travel.

socharlotte Sun 21-Oct-12 17:26:17

me too.haven't a clue how much neighbours earn, but it's obvious that it's a lot more than me.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Sun 21-Oct-12 17:26:20


alphabite Sun 21-Oct-12 17:27:25

Stop moaning. You wouldn't want to live in the kind of area many people have to live in (including me!).

Mrsjay Sun 21-Oct-12 17:29:49

probably because working class people don't have as much money to travel

^ ^ this . I had some friends go away last week to a lovely little cabin just to get away now it wasn't a hut in the middle of nowhere it is a lodge with lovely sofas and rugs blah blah I was envy

E320 Sun 21-Oct-12 17:31:25

I have been working in Zurich for the past 18 months. It is like former East Germany but with prices 1000 times higher. I had to continue to pay my mortgage and utilities where I live during this time. It is well depressing.

TheMonster Sun 21-Oct-12 17:33:46

I have this feeling with work colleagues and their holidays and cars and big houses.

whiteandyelloworchid Sun 21-Oct-12 17:35:36

actually i don't think working class people talk about money much as much as middle class people.
well at least not the ones i know, and the mc people i know, love to talk about how such and such only cost xyz

IvanaHumpalotCountDracula Sun 21-Oct-12 17:36:28

Don't be envious, you never know the state of their bank account/overdraft/credit cards/massive (interest only) mortgage/food cupboards.

As my DM would say 'all fur coat and no knickers' ;-)

whiteandyelloworchid Sun 21-Oct-12 17:37:03

alphabite, thing is i know your right

MoreBeta Sun 21-Oct-12 17:37:32

Do you really think they are all happy? Do you wonder how they are paying for those holidays? Do you think they might be keeping up appearances?

Not is all it seems in wealthy areas and I live in one.

whiteandyelloworchid Sun 21-Oct-12 17:37:34

ivana thats very true

Mrsjay Sun 21-Oct-12 17:38:31

TBH I am not really envious of anybody I would just love to go to a pretty lodge . I think you have to let envy go and not care who is away on their 4th holiday of the year or who has a better house, really don't sweat it,

MrsjREwing Sun 21-Oct-12 17:38:33

Maybe they are new money mc. I remember watching bb when Vinney Jones was on, he knew the price of everything, new money.

MsVestibule Sun 21-Oct-12 17:39:22

Our income is above average (most definitely not mega bucks) but we live in a fairly economically deprived area so can't compare ourselves unfavourably to most of my friends.

So I agree with AKiss. I think I'd be a bit envy if all of my friends were off skiing and to the Sychelles every year.

I bet there are things about your life others envy, though?

Mrsjay Sun 21-Oct-12 17:40:00

working class people will say when they are skint middle class people will tell you how much something costs

Floggingmolly Sun 21-Oct-12 17:40:24

Are you talking about your particular friends lives? Wouldn't their lives be the same no matter where you happened to live? I find it hard to believe you're privy to the private lives of everyone in the immediate area.
I neither know nor care what people who just happen to live nearby are doing.

LaFataTurchina Sun 21-Oct-12 17:40:26

Ah see now I'm the opposite OP.

I'm just about to move to a rather naice place and I'm so excited! Sure, DP and I are going to be amongst the poorest people living there but I don't care. The loveliness of the area makes up for it.

Where I was living last year for uni was pretty grim (i.e. the sort of place I didn't feel safe walking down the high street after dark) and now I get to live somewhere full of greenery, little independent shops and where you can buy quinoa. (Yes, yes I know quinoa is a MC stereotype but I'm trying to set the scene here)

I know it's a bit of a cliche' but you have to count your blessings OP. Moving somewhere less nice isn't necessarily going to make you any better off and your general surroundings would be less nice to be in.
On a practical note the clothes you find in charity shops in posher areas are so much better grin

scottishmummy Sun 21-Oct-12 17:43:10

go rent a damp bedsit on shit side of town see if that cheers you up
is this some sort of stealth brag
so your mates are minted and you are too?

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