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To be weeping now I have agreed dates for my baby to start at the Childminder

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Raspberrysorbet Fri 19-Oct-12 19:08:26

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Sparklingbrook Fri 19-Oct-12 19:09:41

<hugs> How old is your baby?

Raspberrysorbet Fri 19-Oct-12 19:11:06

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LoveYouForeverMyBaby Fri 19-Oct-12 19:14:29

Yanbu...i feel the same when I think about returning to work :-(

Sparklingbrook Fri 19-Oct-12 19:15:36

That's the age I left DS1. It was with my Mum but I was distraught.

BUT, the thought of going back to work was so much worse than the reality. It was a long time ago now but I remember driving into work in my much bigger work clothes and a full face of make up feeling very strange. But it was ok.

Are you going back full time?

Lilicat1013 Fri 19-Oct-12 19:16:53

It will get easier. I was terrified when I put my son in preschool, he has autism so the preschool he needs to go to is some distance away so he goes in a taxi with a escort.

I went from never leaving him before to sending him off in a taxi with strangers. Due to his developmental delays I couldn't even explain to him what was going to happen or where he was going.

He was fine and your little boy will be too, you will probably find it harder than him he will really enjoy spending time with other children.

Raspberrysorbet Fri 19-Oct-12 19:16:58

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MrsWoodforTrees Fri 19-Oct-12 19:17:42

I cried the day I first left my DS at nursery. I was convinced I was never ever going to get over leaving my baby with someone else .

I cried the day he left for the last time (he had loved it , and it had been a fantastic time for him )

I still cry about stuff about him and he is much older and bigger


FuzzyFreudianSlippers Fri 19-Oct-12 19:18:12

Thats totally valid, I wept when I left my DD at preschool for the first time and she was 2.5years!! It was the first time she'd be away from me really and it was really weird, I cried like a baby!

Cathycomehome Fri 19-Oct-12 19:18:22

Sympathy from me, I go back to work on Monday, my ds2 is 14 weeks. I think the thought of it is worse than the reality, though, as long as you're happy with your childminder.

KelperRose Fri 19-Oct-12 19:18:35

I have a 19 year old who still loves his childminder to bits.

He is all grown up and still talks about his childminder and loved her and has never once said 'mum you should have been looking after me and not leaving me with other people whilst you work.

Hopefully your child will form a strong bond with the childminder too

Speaking from personal experience will all work ok although it must be hard to make the initial decision .......Your child will still love you regardless though

whatsforyou Fri 19-Oct-12 19:18:56

Poor you, you are def not BU.
I went back to work 3 months ago and was a wreck, my poor wee baby left alone with a stranger at 9 months (a stranger who I had met several times, he had met and liked and who I had thoroughly researched but that doesn't count!)
If it's any consolation he loves it now, starts smiling and shouting for her when I take him out the car and he loves being around the other children.
Probably won't make you feel much better just now though so have a wine as well XX

Raspberrysorbet Fri 19-Oct-12 19:19:15

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Sparklingbrook Fri 19-Oct-12 19:23:05

I remember the first week back I got so engrossed in my work I didn't think about DS1 shock. i felt so guilty. sad

I also remember driving home. I would ring my Mum and she would stand with DS while he sat in our bedroom window. As I drove up the road he would get really excited. grin he's 13 now so it's not really the same. sad

PagingDrFaggot Fri 19-Oct-12 19:23:27

Raspberry I was exactly the same . I sobbed over my sleeping DS promising that I wasn't abandoning him in the weeks leading up to going back to work.
Now ... Well he loves and I mean really loves going to his childminder. We had a week of tears when I left him, now we get squeals of delight when we pull up outside her house. He really is happy and I am too that I get time to do the job that I love . The thinking about leaving them is really harder than the reality I promise smile I was a mess and so close to pa king in work. Now everyone is happy and it was the right choice. Just make sure you get a childminder you are comfortable with . Mine isn't the "best" in terms of ofsted and paperwork and her house is rather like organised chaos ( she has 5 children of her own!) but she is genuinely warm and loving to my DS cuddles him lots and he adores her .Best of luck

whatsforyou Fri 19-Oct-12 19:23:34

Could someone slap me please? Or give me a Stern Talking To

Don't think you are going to get tough love on this thread, just lots of sympathy and probably a ,ot of getting teary at remembering leaving our LOs for the first time smile

greenbananas Fri 19-Oct-12 19:23:35

Oh dear, I do feel for you sad and the main reason I started working as a childminder is so that I would not have to leave my DS with someone else.

As a childminder, I am very aware of the pain that mums go through when they leave their little ones with me. I promise faithfully to give them lots of love and cuddles, and never to replace their mums in their affections (as if anyone could!)

Hopefully your childminder will be fab and your baby will gain lots of good experiences from being around other children - babies do adore older children smile

Raspberrysorbet Fri 19-Oct-12 19:23:40

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MrsWoodforTrees Fri 19-Oct-12 19:24:29

"9 months, I mean. Not years. I'm not insane... "

I am

Cathycomehome Fri 19-Oct-12 19:27:21

I'm going to have to give you a stern talking to, or you'll start me off crying too, and then I'll resign or something and then we won't have a house or food grin so STOP IT! There you go. wink

Sparklingbrook Fri 19-Oct-12 19:28:40

It's all about the routine I think. Your DS will know after a few days that you drop him off then come back to pick him up. In the meantime he has a play and eats and sleeps.

Raspberrysorbet Fri 19-Oct-12 19:28:45

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Cathycomehome Fri 19-Oct-12 19:29:36

Thanks grin

Raspberrysorbet Fri 19-Oct-12 19:30:00

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catgirl1976 Fri 19-Oct-12 19:30:14

Ah Raspberry sad

I bet he will love it smile The CM sounds lovely and he'll enjoy being with the other children

My DS loves nursery and started when he was 4 months

I cried too smile but it's fine and he loves it and your DS will be fine. X

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