I have a close friend I haven't yet told I'm pregnant (16+2).
I haven't posted on FB about being pregnant, just as a personal choice - I don't really want to put really important, personal stuff on there as an announcement (not judging anyone who does that!). I also don't see her regularly any more as we live a long way from each other. We're still close in the sense that when I'm there or she's here we always meet up / stay with each other, she was at my wedding and did a reading etc etc.
Anyway, I know that she's having a LOT of trouble TTC. She and her partner have been for tests and the chances of them having a child are extremely low, even with IVF. She's devastated by this and also blames herself for a termination she had when she was very young - she feels she wasted the chance she had.
I just don't know how to tell her my news. She knew we would try after getting married, but I almost feel guilty about how easy it was for us - first cylce, pregnant on honeymoon.
I've written her an email several times then deleted it. I feel like I want to phone her, but I kind of don't want to put her on the spot / hijack her with the news 'live'. At least by email /text she has time to compose a reply and doesn't have to give away if she's upset. But an email seems impersonal and a bit 'newsletter-ish'. I know deep down that she will be very happy for me, but I also know that she is only human and this will hurt her.
Am I just being a wimp? What would you do?
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BonaDea · 18/10/2012 12:44
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