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3monkeys3 Wed 17-Oct-12 19:25:14

My dh goes running twice a week. He has recently been working hard on increasing his distance and currently runs around 12km at each run - this is the furthest he has ever run. He has randomly decided to take the morning off work tomorrow and run a half marathon - not an official race, just go on his own to attempt the distance. I am very worried about this - he will be alone, we live relatively remotely and the route he has planned is along country roads, so he is not going to have people around him, he has done no specific training to gear up for it (just his 2 runs a week) - he basically has not prepared at all! I asked him about carb loading and he struggled, I asked him if he even had a drinking bottle to take with him and he said no (he doesn't take a drink with him usually)! I think he is being unreasonable! I have no problem with him tackling the distance, but I feel he should do it for the first time at official race, with medical help and people nearby, having done some specific training and preparation! He thinks I am being unreasonable and am spoiling his mindset by being negative!

3monkeys3 Wed 17-Oct-12 19:25:46

He is 35 and only really moderately fit btw. And we have 3dc.

3monkeys3 Wed 17-Oct-12 19:26:36

He shrugged! Not struggled!

SugariceAndScary Wed 17-Oct-12 19:27:47

I'm with you OP, it sounds ill prepared in my opinion.

LFCisTarkaDahl Wed 17-Oct-12 19:29:33

So he's going to go from running 7.5 miles often to 13 miles once.

He will be fine providing he has no health issues - it's only going to take him 80-90 minutes so get him to call you after.

My dh does this regularly and he doesn't take water either, you don't need it if you're already well hydrated. And you don't need to carb load beforehand, my dh runs this on an empty stomach as most runners do - it's bloody difficult to run on a full stomach.

Numberlock Wed 17-Oct-12 19:29:45

You're not being unreasonable to be concerned for him but you would be unreasonable if you tried to stop him from doing it.

SarkyWench Wed 17-Oct-12 19:31:18

Not an unreasonable step up in distance IMO.

nailak Wed 17-Oct-12 19:32:09

how a bout treating him like an adult capable of making his own decisions?

3monkeys3 Wed 17-Oct-12 19:32:32

Ok, I feel slightly better. I wouldn't stop him, although I'd rather he did a proper race than just went off on his own.

RubyFakeNails Wed 17-Oct-12 19:32:46

I think, as a runner, it does sound ill prepared but most likely, as when I first attempted longer distances, I ran out of steam and walked back until I could find the energy to jog again. I don't run in organised events because I don't like them, they're not for everybody.

I think its not really an issue as long as he takes his phone. He will probably just be sore and grumpy with copious blisters tomorrow evening or he will be thrilled with himself and still have copious blisters.

He's an adult.

spottybag Wed 17-Oct-12 19:34:28

I think it's fine. If it's too long he's just going to stop and come home, surely?

RubyFakeNails Wed 17-Oct-12 19:34:35

Also yeah I don't think its at all necessary for him to carb load, if he was going to do that he might of done it tonight, but I wouldn't say for that distance he needs to. I might have half a banana prior to that length of run.

Nancy66 Wed 17-Oct-12 19:34:37

he'll be fine.

3monkeys3 Wed 17-Oct-12 19:36:44

Ok, def feeling better now. He's not usually so impulsive so it's thrown me a bit!

Doyouthinktheysaurus Wed 17-Oct-12 19:38:42

A bit I'll prepared but he'll cope. He'll either run out of steam and give up or muddle through and come back knackered!

I run that distance once a week, on my own, often without fluids and I live to tell the tale. He's not likely to come to any real harm, running on country roads is fine really. I always wear high vis gear and run facing the traffic.

LFCisTarkaDahl Wed 17-Oct-12 19:39:03

I toned down my dh's response as his face was like confused and he said 'sure, it's a step up for him as a runner, but he can just stop and walk the last couple of miles can't he'? grin

Doyouthinktheysaurus Wed 17-Oct-12 19:39:41

I just have my usual a brekkie of toast and marmite before that distance run.

mum11970 Wed 17-Oct-12 19:39:56

He regularly runs 12km and is reasonably fit so I don't see the problem. He won't need carb loading and a lot of runners find a bottle of water annoying to carry. If he can't manage to run the full 13 miles he can just slow down or walk.

3monkeys3 Wed 17-Oct-12 19:41:59

Or call me to come and get him grin

3monkeys3 Wed 17-Oct-12 19:42:55

Ok, I'm laughing about it now! Didn't think AIBU would make me feel so much better so quickly! Normally it makes me cross!

lljkk Wed 17-Oct-12 19:53:18

He's an adult, let him get on with it.

3monkeys3 Wed 17-Oct-12 20:42:13

I am now doing him a surprise playlist! Any suggestions welcome! Thank you for the reassurance - I really needed it as I was worrying quite a bit! Feeling much better and confident that he has a good shot at it. He has just told me his planned route and he is going a different way to where I expected - into and around our nearest town, so he will have people around him for most of it, plus it is quite a flat route (his normal runs are very hilly). Phew!

Trills Wed 17-Oct-12 20:44:16

If he finds he can't manage it he'll just have to walk back, won't he?

RubyFakeNails Wed 17-Oct-12 21:24:38

By running playlist is loads of garage and house by people I can't remember, however you have to use:

Keep on running by spencer matthews band,
the long and winding road by mccartney
run through the jungle by creedence clearwater
shoot the runner by kasabian
run by snow patrol
nowhere to run by martha and the vandellas
2000 miles by the pretenders
born to run by springsteen
ain't no stopping us now by mcfadden and someone I can't remember
eye of the tiger
don't stop me now
the rocky theme song?
the winner takes it all by abba

I can't think of any more, but you can buy running playlists from itunes and or just look at them online for inspiration.

RubyFakeNails Wed 17-Oct-12 21:24:56

*My running playlist.

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