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AIBU to be shocked at the school

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wonderingwendy Wed 17-Oct-12 18:40:40

handing out my 11 year old dd tampons ?
i was really angry .
she knows all about periods and we have a very open relationship ,she has sanitary towels and that is the best option for me and her i believe
im just shocked as to how my little girl would even manage to get a tampon inside her .
the teacher gave it to them and they weren't even in a sex education class.

INeedThatForkOff Wed 17-Oct-12 18:41:47

What has a tampon got to do with sex?

GrimAndHumourless Wed 17-Oct-12 18:41:49

did DD ask for tampons?

that's what you need to establish before you go off on one

Molehillmountain Wed 17-Oct-12 18:42:47

No I'm not shocked. I used tampons from my first period. They are giving info on the options. You don't have to buy tampons for your dd if you don't want to but they are an averred form of sanitary protection.

BonVoyageCharlieBrown Wed 17-Oct-12 18:42:58

YABU its a tampon, not a sex toy.

GhostofMammaTJ Wed 17-Oct-12 18:43:17

The female vagina is very strecthy, even in one so young. My mum, backward over most things, gave me tampons as soon as I started my periods. She will need to use them for swimming or she will be sat on the edge of the pool looking sad while all her friends swim.

Better still, buy her a mooncup wink

GhostofMammaTJ Wed 17-Oct-12 18:43:37

Clearly I mean stretchy!!

thebitchdoctor Wed 17-Oct-12 18:44:03

I was given tampons after a period talk in school aged 11. I don't see why you would be shocked, it's good they are considering these things IMO, so YABU.

5madthings Wed 17-Oct-12 18:44:19

Well maybe she asked the teacher? Maybe she was caught short and that was all the teacher had.

And its your dd's choice if she wants to use tampons or not, not yours and why wouldnt she be able to get a tampon in?!

Sirzy Wed 17-Oct-12 18:44:36


It is her body therefore she should decide which works better for her when the time comes. We were given both towels and tampons when we had "the talk" at school

msrisotto Wed 17-Oct-12 18:45:28

YAB very U!
It's a bit odd that you've made the decision for her, why? What's your problem with tampons? And a very weird comment about them fitting inside her! They will just fine! Why shouldn't she have the option?

Doodlekitty Wed 17-Oct-12 18:45:35

This is fairly common and has been for a long time. I'm in my 30s and was given tampons in year 7. I've seen it done in year 6 but by a nurse explaining periods. Not sure what the issue is

JamieandtheMagicTorch Wed 17-Oct-12 18:45:35

I used tampons from my second period.

What is the problem, as long as he advised about hygiene and not leaving it in too long.

Periods were made slightly more tolerable for me once i discovered you didn't have to wear what (in those days) was somewhat like a nappy

IneedAgoldenNickname Wed 17-Oct-12 18:45:53

We were given tampons at school at that age, I don't understand the problem!

5madthings Wed 17-Oct-12 18:46:02

And yes we had a talk (not sex ed, purely about periods) and were given a selection of lillets, tampax, pads etc at about your dd's age in high school.

whathasthecatdonenow Wed 17-Oct-12 18:46:40

All of our Y7s (11 years old) get given a box with a mixture of tampons, towels and liners. Schools get given these by the companies who make sanitary protection. We then keep the spares as you'd be amazed how many girls get caught out without any when they need them.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Wed 17-Oct-12 18:47:39

What do you mean by she has sanitary towels and that is the best option for me and her i believe?

How can you possibly know what is the best option for her if she hasn't been given a chance to try anything other than towels?

I started when I was 12. On my second period ever I started using tampons, and haven't looked back since. My Mum hardly ever uses tampons, she doesn't like them. But my body is not hers and if she'd tried to tell me what the best option for me was without even letting me try more than one option, I'd have been pretty pissed off with her!

Notquite Wed 17-Oct-12 18:47:50

Is it the pack of samples for year7s? Dd's included tampons & pads. Nobody's making her use them & you can obviously discuss your preferences for pads with her. Not all girls are lucky enough to have such open relationships with their patents.

Dd was just a bit taken aback by the size of the pack and was glad she had a capacious bag.

wonderingwendy Wed 17-Oct-12 18:48:04

sorry let me clear this up she hasn't started her period yet and she did not ask for them all the girls in her year were given them.

WelshMaenad Wed 17-Oct-12 18:48:34

It's her vagina. Why the fuck do her sanitary protection choices need to be the best option for YOU?

Notquite Wed 17-Oct-12 18:48:51

Parents, not patents.

CookingFunt Wed 17-Oct-12 18:48:59

Unless there is a medical problem that would make using tampons difficult then YABVU.

diddl Wed 17-Oct-12 18:49:11

Pads are the best option for you-what´s that got to do with it??

My daughter has been using them since she was 10.

She feels safer & non smelly!

ObiWan Wed 17-Oct-12 18:49:21

But why on earth are you shocked?

moonstorm Wed 17-Oct-12 18:49:28

I think there's an argument for giving boys tampon samples as well... <controversial>

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