My husband moved out in August due to his behaviour- we've been married 7 years and have 3 kids 6 and younger. I've got the kids.
My little sister (33) announces that she is engaged soon after- lovely- I'm pleased her bloke is v nice.
Little sister asks if I mind if they look into getting married at the same place me and not quite husband did. I say fine- why not- it's a nice place.
Little sister texts to ask if I can go with her to see dresses at the same place I got mine...I put off replying for a couple of days as not keen but would have done it.
Mum asks for name of people I hired car from so little sister can use them (can't remember anyway)
Mum says that little sister has got a date for wedding at the same venue that we had- 2 days after my wedding date. And that I'm expected to be some sort of bridesmaid. At THIS point I say "actually...I don't feel I can be expected to be altogether happy with this and be expected to participate so much, 2 days after what would have been our anniversary at the same place that I got married". I explained that the date at another venue would have been fine, or at least a couple of weeks earlier or later at the same venue would probably also have been fine, but that this, I feel, is going to be a bit much.
My mum said that "your sister has enough on her plate" and that when she asks me to be a bridesmaid (I'm too sodding old!) I'm not to refuse. And anyway "you're still talking to DH"
Regarding my own 'plate' being empty I've just had 3 weeks off work with depression , I've just started back but don't feel great. I do talk to DH and things are amicable but that doesn't mean that I'm not sad about our relationship and how things have worked out.
I'm expected to start going looking at bridesmaids dresses and all that gubbins soon and to be honest I couldn't think of anything I'd rather do less. I can accept I have to go to the wedding- but is it ok to say that I just can't deal with having to help with wedding preparations at the moment, and definitely do not want to be a bridesmaid, so soon after my own would-have-been anniversary? Or am I being selfish?
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sillymummy11 · 16/10/2012 21:56
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