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To NOT take my 14 year old his lunch

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Ithinkitsjustme Tue 16-Oct-12 11:47:06

He''s left his packed lunch on the kitchen worktop and will no doubt be hungry, but he IS 14 and he finishes school at 2.30 today (because it's a Tuesday!!!) so AIBU to think he can wait until he gets home

Monty27 Tue 16-Oct-12 11:48:23

How far away is school?

CMOTDibbler Tue 16-Oct-12 11:48:37

YANBU. At 14, he can borrow from friends or whatever, and he will be less likely to forget his lunch in the future

Ithinkitsjustme Tue 16-Oct-12 11:50:06

School is less than a mile away, he'll be home before 3

WorraLiberty Tue 16-Oct-12 11:50:14

If the school's not too far I'd take it to him.

I don't see what his age has to do with it.

Everyone forgets things sometimes.

Madlizzy Tue 16-Oct-12 11:51:25

My children's school will give them a school lunch if they forget theirs, to be paid for the next day.

WorraLiberty Tue 16-Oct-12 11:52:42

Oh yes that's a point

They get a 'hardship' meal (horrible phrase) at my DS's school.

It's a roll, a piece of fruit and a drink of water.

BeckAndCall Tue 16-Oct-12 11:53:36

Can you take it? Are you busy? If so, I can't see why you wouldn't.

But if you're working and can't then there'll be a back up arrangement I'm sure - school lunch, shares etc

Monty27 Tue 16-Oct-12 11:55:35

I'd take it <soft touch>

Tuttutitlookslikerain Tue 16-Oct-12 11:56:00

Unless you have never, ever forgotten anything in your life, then YABU. Everyone forgets sometimes.

StuntGirl Tue 16-Oct-12 11:57:50

I wouldn't, but I'd be too busy to take it round that's why. It won't kill him, I've done it at work and had to borrow money. I'm sure one of his friends will help him out.

BloodRedAlienReflux Tue 16-Oct-12 12:00:35

I'd take it, unless there's a good reason not to?

frantic51 Tue 16-Oct-12 12:00:57

Depends. If the school is near enough and don't offer a, "hardship" meal (I agree, horrible term) and it wouldn't inconvenience/cost me or other children then I would take it. If he will be offered something at school to tide him over and cost, financial or otherwise, would make life difficult, I wouldn't, seeing as he'll be home by 3pm.

FireOverBabylon Tue 16-Oct-12 12:05:13

Has he done this before? If it's a rare one-off, take it in. If you've told him time and time again that you won't take his lunch in for him next time, then put the kettle on safe in the knowledge that he will definitely remember next time.

Bluebell99 Tue 16-Oct-12 12:07:22

I would take it (just as I did when I found one pe trainer left in the hall!)

Monty27 Tue 16-Oct-12 12:08:13

OP are you back yet? grin

WorraLiberty Tue 16-Oct-12 12:09:28

The schools around here are cashless so borrowing money wouldn't do any good.

akaemmafrost Tue 16-Oct-12 12:10:19

I would take it.

noblegiraffe Tue 16-Oct-12 12:11:04

14 year olds are perfectly capable of sorting this out for themselves. They'll scab off their mates or borrow some money to buy something from the canteen. Don't baby him!

chocoluvva Tue 16-Oct-12 12:12:53

It depends on the history of his being forgetful/careless/ late getting up in the morning and how inconvenienced you'd be by going to school IMO.

lambethlil Tue 16-Oct-12 12:13:38

No! And I'm not taking my 14 yo sports shirt in although it's a little bit my fault.

chocoluvva Tue 16-Oct-12 12:14:19

My DS (13) would be mortified if I went to his school with his lunch!

IceBergJam Tue 16-Oct-12 12:17:30

If its a one off I would, but we didnt with Dss who would forget constantley. He soon learnt.

AudrinaAdare Tue 16-Oct-12 12:18:35

YANBU if there are Lessons To Be Learned. I once told DD to pack her swimming things three times one evening and when she forgot them in the morning the school rang me to ask if I could bring them. She is in year eight! I replied that I thought that was what detention was for.

Fakebook Tue 16-Oct-12 12:21:39

No way would I take it. Can't remember how many times I left my lunch at home aged 14+. No one bought it for me. I had to borrow money from friends and get a portion of chips or some crisps from the vending machine. Really, he's old enough now. YANBU!

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