"Never mind, maybe you'll get back together some day"
When the subject comes up, as it might for various reasons, of my divorced status, a few apparently well-meaning people - mostly old ladies and middle-aged men - have trotted out that line as if it were comforting or something. And then seem a little surprised when I look horrified. (Some say "oh, I'm sorry to hear that" - I don't mind that so much, it's a sort of knee-jerk sympathy, albeit misplaced.)
As time goes on I'm less likely to startle them with the vehemence of my reply, more likely to just laugh and say "Oh no." But I still think "Why - why would you even say that?" If they know me, they know I worked hard for that divorce and I'm fecked if I go back on it. If they don't, how can they possibly think it's a safe response? He could have knocked me about, or cheated with the Dagenham Girl Pipers, or have died since, or be in prison for something really nasty, as far as they know (although he didn't do any of those things, to be fair). It could be highly insensitive. Wait - actually, it is highly insensitive.
(Saying it to me on this thread doesn't count. Though I suppose it would be a little bit funny once.)
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To think this is not a tactful response on hearing you are divorced?
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Anniegetyourgun · 15/10/2012 22:11
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