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AIBU?

Genuine AIBU - was this rude?

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flippinada · 15/10/2012 21:01

Quite prepared to be told I am being!

Walking home from work today and was bellowed at (can't think of another word that appropriately describes it tbh) by a child - are you not on your bike, are you not on your bike (x 10 and at increasing volume) - at first I thought they must have been talking to a friend but then I realised they were yelling at me! I just ignored it but reflecting afterwards I thought, how bloody ill mannered.

I realise this will make me sound utterly fogey-ish but I wouldn't have dared behave like that as a child (am late 30ish). But maybe I'm just being an old fart and it's quite normal these days?

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flippinada · 15/10/2012 21:02

Mean to say am late 30s not 30ish!

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GotMyGoat · 15/10/2012 21:03

Do you normally ride your bike and he sees you everyday sort of thing? Maybe he thought you were rude for ignoring him!

Not sure I understand tbh!

usualsuspect3 · 15/10/2012 21:03

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KenandDeirdre · 15/10/2012 21:05

Are you sure you heard right?

marquesas · 15/10/2012 21:06

Have you missed some info out of your OP - it sounds a bit random?

flippinada · 15/10/2012 21:08

Well, I do have a bike so I presume they'd seen me out on that, hence the shouting.

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Sparklingbrook · 15/10/2012 21:09

Depends if you are a cyclist or not for a start.

WhizziesMum · 15/10/2012 21:10

How old was the child?

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flippinada · 15/10/2012 21:11

I definitely heard right. It does sound odd when you read back, doesn't it - but that's what happened.

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flippinada · 15/10/2012 21:14

Eleven or twelve I think - in a group. I didn't recognise him. They were at a distance - lots of kids round here, it's a nice playing out sort of place.

He really did just started shouting.

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flippinada · 15/10/2012 21:17

Fair enough, usualsuspect - we all have different takes on these things don't we.

I'm a quiet and reserved sort of person so it's just not how I would have behaved but I appreciate it may not have been meant rudely.

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Asmywhimsytakesme · 15/10/2012 21:19

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larks35 · 15/10/2012 21:21

I think it sounds like he was asking/shouting a genuine question, but maybe with some unknown, humourous-to-teens only agenda. He shouldn't have continued shouting out, that's rude. Did you acknowledge him at all?

I work with teens and they can be a bit odd at times, asking the strangest of questions and then falling about with laughter when I give a straight answer. They're a weird lot when in a group, lovely on a one-to-one basis.

flippinada · 15/10/2012 21:23

It's not a rude question at all. I meant more the bellowing across the street at an adult you don't know is rude, although I.appreciate the op is a bit garbled!

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tharsheblows · 15/10/2012 21:26

If my 11 yo shouted that repeatedly at someone, I'd tell him to stop it because he was being rude. But I do know from experience that teens are strange creatures, especially when together, as larks said. So it was rude but probably of the clueless, socially inept, kids being goofy variety rather than something ill meant.

flippinada · 15/10/2012 21:27

Hmmmm....that sounds about right larks! Maybe there was a bit of showing off/bravado in front of mates involved- certainly don't think there was anything malicious in it.

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Floggingmolly · 15/10/2012 21:28

It's odd, certainly. It must have been flaming obvious you weren't on your bike . And you don't actually know the child?

MmeLindor · 15/10/2012 21:30

tbh, I would have answered him, that no, today I wasn't on my bike .. or something.

Perhaps he was so used to seeing you on your bike, and wondered why you weren't cycling today.

I would have suspected that he was on the autistic spectrum rather than being rude.

flippinada · 15/10/2012 21:30

No I don't floggingmolly but clearly I have made an impression :).

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flippinada · 15/10/2012 21:32

Actually Mme I hadn't considered that - you could be right. He nay be thinking I'm the rude one.

Next time I see him I'll smile and say hello.

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flippinada · 15/10/2012 21:34

I mean may, not nay.

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soontobemumofthree · 15/10/2012 21:34

Its not polite to shout across the street, this is true, but sounds like unintentioned rudeness and really he just wanted to communicate with you! I wouldnt have done this either as a child but plenty of my classmates might of!

flippinada · 15/10/2012 21:38

I agree it wasn't intentional rudeness, just childish high spirits or maybe even what Mme Lindor said, in which case he might be thinking I'm the being odd/rude.

As you can probably tell I haven't much experience with that age group, mine is younger. I can see I have much to learn!

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