I have been going to one-to-one NFP (Natural Family Planning) sessions at the local sexual health clinic. I just wanted to learn how to tell my fertility signs from charting, observation of bodily signs like mucus, cervical position, body temperature, etc. as hormonal contraception doesn't agree with me too well and DH doesn't like wearing condoms (Though he will if we have sex because I insist).. Although we have no current or forseeable plans to conceive as we already have 3 DCs and they are keeping us busy. But I wouldn't rule out having another child in future since we are still in our early 30s. Before I took up the course, I thought about just learning this from a book but since I was advised that its best I learn from a trained NFP teacher, I decided to do just that.
Me and DH don't have a very active sex life. It's been like this always, we have been together 10 + years and we are close and talk to each other a lot, but just don't get around to having sex that much. The thing is if we tell our friends this, some of them just think this is odd, but at least they don't make rude comments at this. But this NFP teacher I'm seeing (who happens to be a midwife by profession) always asks me if we had unprotected sex every time I see her - I see her once a month btw - have seen her 3 times now so I think it is towards the end of the course.. Fair enough, it may be her job as a NFP teacher at a sexual health clinic to make sure no babies are accidentally conceived during the course of learning NFP, but when I say "no", she asks if I have had sex at all, and for the past 3 times, each time I told her "no" to that, she makes some sort of remark about it. The first time she was just incredulous, to which I politely explained that's natural for us, and it doesn't bother us at all. Then she said okay, yea, different strokes for different folks, blah blah.
The second time I saw her, she started laughing when I told her "no" again to her "did you have sex" question. I started feeling like that was a bit... odd. Rude, in fact.
The third time I saw her, same question again, and I answered the same. Then she shook her head and made a HUGE sigh and smiled wryly.
Now am I right or wrong in thinking she is being unprofessional with her reactions?
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firefly11 · 15/10/2012 19:38
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