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AIBU?

To be kicking him into the doctors and hope that alcohol is the cause?

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gerardbutlersthighs · 13/10/2012 21:47

Dp is a heavy drinker and recently started having various symptoms that are all linking together and looking at being signs of alcohol damage Sad the most recent of which is acetone smelling breath which more people than just me have noticed.

Now diabetes runs in his family and that's how we've all convinced him to get checked over but really we all believe its the drink that's doing it as all the diabetics were diagnosed as children, and are secretly hoping this gives him a fright to cut down (because nothing else has worked) and hope that whatever it is is reversible.

Aibu to hope this?

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Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 13/10/2012 21:49

YANBU.

I hope for all your sakes that this is a wakeup call for him.

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Mrsjay · 13/10/2012 21:52

YANBU i hope the doctor will give him a wake up call and he gets a bit of a fright and then helped,

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topknob · 13/10/2012 21:53

What is an acetone smell?

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gerardbutlersthighs · 13/10/2012 21:54

Breath smells sweet/like pear drops/nail varnish

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tescocarrierbagexplosion · 13/10/2012 21:55

LEAVE THE BASTARD!!!

Nah maybe don't! Hopefully the doctor can scare him into looking after his body and give him a massive wake up call!

Is he happy to go and see the doctor?

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BabylonPI · 13/10/2012 21:56

Is that the pear drop kind of smell??

If so, dsis was saying for years that this smell on her was linked to diabetes - but we found out a month ago she is 9 years alcohol dependent Sad

There's a whole other thread about that Sad

YANBU - get him seen and yes hope it scares the shit out of him enough to stop drinking Sad

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zombieplanmum · 13/10/2012 21:59

acetone breath is caused by ketones in the blood stream, if his liver is struggling then it could be that they are not being broken down. Is it acetone (pear drops) or just the stale alcohol smell that lingers on folk that drink too much?

Is he aware he has a problem with alcohol? I have recently stopped (seriously cut down) the amount of alcohol i drink (was doing a bottle of wine most nights) and i feel so much better in myself. Now i don't know if i had a "drink problem" but it wasn't doing me any good. I as shocked at how better i felt, how quickly. I do still drink in fact i have wine just now, but now its a bottle of wine a week (or half a bottle as i share with DP) if i can be bothered.

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gerardbutlersthighs · 13/10/2012 21:59

tesco he keeps making excuses not to go, but we think the diabetes stuff has put the shitters up him enough for him to go this week

babylon oh no! Sorry to hear that Sad how is she doing?

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gerardbutlersthighs · 13/10/2012 22:02

zombie it's definitely not "stale" smell, I know what you mean by that, he's never smelled of drink the following day unless he's had a heavy session the night before. This is something that's only started recently and is now his breath smell whether he's had a drink (so morning to mid afternoon) or not. If that makes any sense to you

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zombieplanmum · 13/10/2012 22:04

Does he have any other symptoms? He needs a full blood work up i would think.

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gerardbutlersthighs · 13/10/2012 22:06

He's generally very run down, tired, joints are aching, relies on a drink to get to sleep then wakes at 3am as he can't stay asleep, he looks fucked to be fair Sad I know that's not a symptom but still...

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cheekydevil · 13/10/2012 22:17

Actually if it is alcohol then that is worse isn't it?
I have seen some tragic loss due to alcohol abuse and it was irreversible. At least other things are managable?

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gerardbutlersthighs · 13/10/2012 22:18

If he can knock the drink on the head then it could be reversible. He needs the frighteners on him to stop though

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ChristineDaae · 13/10/2012 22:22

I hope its not too serious but is drink related and scares the shit out of him!! (Would actually love something like this for DP who drinks too much!) Hope it all works out for you

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gerardbutlersthighs · 13/10/2012 22:23

Thank you. I'm petrified for him in all honesty because if its the drink and he doesn't stop...Sad I don't even want to think about it

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cheekydevil · 13/10/2012 22:29

I wish you good luck but I know from experience that alcohol related illnesses are not usual reversible

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Mrsjay · 13/10/2012 22:57

Sorry off topic this is about the OP partner but my step dad smells of peardrops I am always confused about it, but he is a heavy drinker not so much now but in the past, I wonder if he has something wrong now because of the drinking, not that he would go to a doctor in a million years Sad

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aliceinboots · 14/10/2012 00:02

How much does he drink? I worry about DH cos he can knock them back too.

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catstail · 14/10/2012 00:27

Op, i think u should hv a private word with the gp bfr he goed yo see him, maybe by phone.

Theres no reason for a gp to suspect alcohol poisoning effects if he doesnt know someone has an alcohol problem.

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missingmumxox · 14/10/2012 01:40

Um! am I the only person to say type 2 diabetes, or am I being thick here? alcohol can do this, as it masks the signs, lowers blood sugars so high sugar diet can be masked, was a age old cheat for type 2 diabetics, until the 3 month average blood test came in.
but the pear drop smell is the give away, alcohol is the red herring

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BabylonPI · 14/10/2012 02:19

If it's ketones and it's the liver breaking down, it's got to be more than 85% damaged/broken down before it's irreparable - so try not to worry too much.

Dsis is in the road to recovery. It's a long road and she'll NEVER be able to drink alcohol again - but it's the right direction.

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gerardbutlersthighs · 14/10/2012 02:37

The diabetes is how we've convinced him to go. If its diabetes he will need to cut the drink, if its the drink then he's had a wake up call. Either way he needs seeing.

He drinks a bottle of wine plus 3 cans of strongbow a night from when he gets in from work to bedtime

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ParsleyTheLioness · 14/10/2012 02:43

gerard I was told this smell can be caused by gallstones, but that may not be right.

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DolomitesDonkey · 14/10/2012 05:11

We have an alcoholic in the family with Type II diabetes - he's on over 10 types of oral medication a day. He has been told that if he'd stop drinking his diabetes would be manageable by diet alone... he still drinks.

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MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour · 14/10/2012 06:16

Will he admit to the doctor how much he's drinking? Because if not it might not help at all. Would he be happy for you to go with him?

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