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AIBU to thank that my nephews university womens society were wrong in..

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Immycupoftea Sat 13-Oct-12 14:56:46

My nephew is a fresher at a University in Kent. In an introduction speech to a large hall of freshers the Womens Society officer proclaimed that "All men were potential rapists" AIBU in thinking this is not a point of view to express to 18 year olds. I realise we all have to be careful, but....
I must add this was not an employee of the uni, just a society officer.

Toombs Sat 13-Oct-12 14:58:50

YANBU, imagine if a man stood up and said "All women are potential prostitutes".

cantspel Sat 13-Oct-12 14:59:53

That is just so wrong on so many different levals

FreudiansGoldSlipper Sat 13-Oct-12 15:00:10


We could all be classed as potential abusers potential murders. I agree it is a little outdated now but the emphasis is on the word potential

MrsMangoBiscuit Sat 13-Oct-12 15:00:21

It's the same as saying that all people are potential murderers. I suppose you could argue a case for it being true, but I don't believe it. I also think it's a pretty dim view to hold of the world in general, and if someone tried teaching my daughter the same thing, I'd probably tell her it was bullshit.

UltraBOF Sat 13-Oct-12 15:01:25

They were doing that one in 1991, and it was old then. I suppose the point is to start a debate though.

Birdsgottafly Sat 13-Oct-12 15:01:35

It depends on what the next bit contained.

How we think and act is down to social conditioning, the law against rape in marriage was opposed, for example.

There are some cultures that don't believe in rape, as they see men as having the right to use women how they choose.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sat 13-Oct-12 15:01:56

What did she go on to say?

Nancy66 Sat 13-Oct-12 15:03:06

tedious and tiresome. Shock tactics for the sake of it.

SigmundFraude Sat 13-Oct-12 15:04:06

Gross. Grim. Totally unsurprising, sadly. Tell your nephew to stay well away from anyone who went to the meeting.

Birdsgottafly Sat 13-Oct-12 15:04:35

An easier way of explaining what i mean is, that one person's would see an act as a right, another person as abuse.

Which is an on going debate when starting to teach social conditioning and sociology.

Birdsgottafly Sat 13-Oct-12 15:07:34

It is' zzzz' to older adults but not to teens starting out, all at different levels.

We forget on MN what it was like to be a teen, with fixed ideas and we needed information being given in certain ways to get a whole class's attention and for them to talk about it afterwards.

Lectures should promote debate and this one has, not goin one ear and out the other.

Immycupoftea Sat 13-Oct-12 15:07:36

Thank you for your comments.

I'm not sure what she followed it up with- I shall enquire. I just found it insulting to vilify an entire sex. Apparently none of the students uttered a word.

18 year olds at university should be capable of critical, rational thinking and of accepting or rejecting what they are told though. They are not children to be protected from extreme views and they are not intellectually vulnerable.

Presumably the comment was intended to be thought provoking rather than definitive, but even if the student rep who said it believes it to be unequivocal fact university students should be capable of deciding how to deal with the statement rather than be shocked to the core or accept it - otherwise what, to be blunt, are they doing at university?

lovebunny Sat 13-Oct-12 15:10:02

how bizarre. i suppose its like saying that marriage is the cause of divorce.
perhaps the speaker just has poor social skills.
thinking of how a man would sound saying 'all women are potentially up for it, so watch out, they might take you by force'.
not sure how their being 18 affects anything. except that 'we adults' might see 18 year olds as bigger children, innocent and hopeful as they go off to university, whereas they might see themselves as fully adult, ready to take on the world and all its opportunities.

Birdsgottafly Sat 13-Oct-12 15:10:22

I just found it insulting to vilify an entire sex.

Unless you know the full lecture, you cannot assume that.

Most Sociology teachers (and others,but my sociology lectures were the worse) start off their lessons with contraversal statements.

Birdsgottafly Sat 13-Oct-12 15:11:46

i suppose its like saying that marriage is the cause of divorce.

I have heard teachers say that, it starts debate.

FredFredGeorge Sat 13-Oct-12 15:13:47

It's not true, as not all men have penises - therefore they cannot be rapists.

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour Sat 13-Oct-12 15:15:34


Just as nothing a woman do can cause her to be raped nothing a man who is not a rapist will do will make him rape. It is not men that are the problem it is rapists

Technically we are all potential murderers, child abusers and paedophiles but I'd be very pissed off if anyone called me any one of those

YouMayLogOut Sat 13-Oct-12 15:16:23


Maybe she was trying to say that you can't tell a potential rapist just by looking at them. But what she said is wrong of course.

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour Sat 13-Oct-12 15:17:02

And also this wasn't a lecture in sociology or a debate so it seems highly inappropriate

Immycupoftea Sat 13-Oct-12 15:17:24

Also I heard that one of the later statements was "As long as men abuse their power....."
It certainly didn't sound like an open debate!

WithoutCaution Sat 13-Oct-12 15:19:14

... They should have said that all men and women are potential rapists

It's complete bull anyway. It's a bit like saying that all strangers want to abduct your child

Brodicea Sat 13-Oct-12 15:20:32

Definitely OTT of them to say this, plus it will put off some young women from joining the society or even thinking they could be involved, which is a shame.
BUT this is university, and all the students should be challenged with a range of opinions. I don't think it matters that he is 18, he is an adult and he will need to learn to engage with and challenge any views he doesn't agree with.

UltraBOF Sat 13-Oct-12 15:22:31

Why are women potential rapists? confused

You need a dick, at least in British law.

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