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To leave DD downstairs watching TV whilst I sort the washing out on the landing upstairs?

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IRCL Thu 11-Oct-12 19:48:40

Just got off the phone to my mum, mentioned that DS was downstairs watching TV whilst I was on the landing sorting through the mountains of washing.

She started ranting at me saying how I shouldn't do it.

All doors are open and I shout down to her, nothing in living room that poses a danger really, unless you count more bloody washing.

AIBU to think that it is fine or is my my mum right and I am being an irresponsible parent?


She's 3? My son is age 3, I leave him all the time to do stuff, he comes and finds me if he needs something. YANBU.

I'd start telling your Mum less to be honest. She's sounds bit loopy to me grin Save yourself the aggravation and tell her less about what you're up to/ choose to do with your DD wink

spottybag Thu 11-Oct-12 21:31:22

THREE???? Jesus Wept!!!! Of course it's ok!!

KenLeeeeeee Thu 11-Oct-12 21:32:57


Raspberryandorangesorbet Thu 11-Oct-12 21:51:11

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Softlysoftly Thu 11-Oct-12 21:56:48

GPs are brilliant, MIL told me not to tell dd1 off as she's too little (3)! DH distinctly remembers being whacked with a bit of their front privet hedge at not much older.

She will have left you to your own devices plenty of times, the rise tinted glasses get installed as soon as a d/dil gets pregnant.

ujjayi Thu 11-Oct-12 22:09:28

I'm sorry OP, I really did want to make a contribution to your thread but I am too busy PMSL at the competitive silk worm ownership ishooos grin

HappyOrchid Thu 11-Oct-12 23:48:17

No way unreasonalbe.

My mom once yelled at me when DD aged about 5 at the time answered the phone because I was taking some rubbish out to the bin. Apparently I ws irresponsible to leave her alone in the house whilst I went with house keys in my pocket the 3 - 4 metres to the dustbin.

My mom conveniently forgets that she worked evenings and my dad worked shifts and they often overlapped working times and from the age of 10 I would look after my 4 year old sister for at least an hour mist days.

Ozziegirly Fri 12-Oct-12 05:01:23

Well I leave DS (2) in front of playschool with his toast in the morning while I have a shower. He's got legs, he knows where to find me if he needs me.

What was she objecting to? The TV being on or you not being in the same room?

catgirl1976 Fri 12-Oct-12 05:37:30

I heard your silkworms smoke Raspberry <sniff>


Trousersrolled Fri 12-Oct-12 05:43:46

YANBU. Unless you can get your DD to help with the laundry... smile

Raspberryandorangesorbet Fri 12-Oct-12 09:20:36

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Faylalu Fri 12-Oct-12 09:46:03

I'm probabaly a terrible parent, but if I didn't let my son watch TV while I did the washing/showered NOTHING would get done and I would stink. He's a good boy and I check on him all the time.

I think it depends on what kind of child you have. If my son was a climber/wall drawer, kitchen knife finder then I would have him with me ALL the time, but he doesn't bothered about anything apart from the Lingo Show etc...

browniebear Fri 12-Oct-12 11:53:50

No UANBU I leave ds 2.5 watching mr tumble and can get lots done, except he seems to know when I go for a wee and Then he just follows me upstairs to say clever mummy

cheekydevil Fri 12-Oct-12 11:57:20

3! I was down bloody mines by that age. Your too bloody soft you southerners!

cheekydevil Fri 12-Oct-12 11:58:19

grin @ brownie clever mommy wipe too?

valiumredhead Fri 12-Oct-12 11:59:34

3? shock of course it's ok!!!!!

urbanproserpine Fri 12-Oct-12 12:02:52

haha, she should try having twins! No choice then. relax.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Fri 12-Oct-12 12:05:38

Dear God. When my DS1 was 2.8 I used to leave him downstairs in front of the TV while I attempted to settle my then newborn for a nap. If he wanted me he could come and find me...

browniebear Fri 12-Oct-12 12:15:31

Cheekydevil sometimes I get a round of applause toogrin

youmeatsix Fri 12-Oct-12 14:18:12

if you had taught your 3 year old to fold/iron & put away the washing, you could watch JK with your feet up AND know where they were and what they were doing at all times!

sarahtigh Fri 12-Oct-12 14:27:44

my DD is nearly 3 and has pretty much freedom to roam all over the house and back garden; I check periodically if not in same room, keep kitchen door shut to prevent fridge ranging and helping mummy by washing up!

I think it is good for 2+ year olds to amuse themselves, I hear her talking to her animals and toys, she knows where to find me, I would nip to greenhouse to get tomatoes for lunch etc, they really will not sponataneously combust if you leave them for a couple of minutes

your mother is unfortunately unhealthy paranoid

crackcrackcrak Fri 12-Oct-12 14:31:03

I do it. After breakfast dd watches telly for 30-45 mins while I get ready and do housework. I pop on and out and talk to her down the stairs. I always dash down if she dies my answer but its always because she's engrossed in mr tumble or whatever. I thi k she likes to sit quietly sometimes anyway. I get ready then we go out and go active things together - never had a problem.

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