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Aibu to be pissed with this friend.

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pud1 Thu 11-Oct-12 10:57:27

She used to live on my street for about 16 months and moved at the beginning of summer. She is an army wife and is privately renting through the army whilst her oh is posted in the area. She has moved millions of times so I understand her need to make friends quickly and this is what happened when she moved in. Our dcs are much the same age and her dcs came round to play with mine ALOT. Since she has moved she has made no effort to pop round. I don't drive and she now lives in the next town. We did not spek for a few weeks when she moved out as I was away. I was the first to call her then we did not speak again until she needed some one to look after her dcs. Our yougests go to the same nursery so we do see each other there but only about once a week. I have just seen her drive past my house as has not bothered to say hello. Tbh I feel like we were only friends as I provided a free babysitting service. Do you think I should just leave it or tell her how I feel

GoldShip Thu 11-Oct-12 10:59:07


But I understand how she feels too. She probably just has friends of convenience. If, as you say she's constantly moving, it'd be really hard to form bonds with people and have to stick with them all

WorraLiberty Thu 11-Oct-12 11:01:36

Isn't seeing her once a week enough?

When she drove past, she might have been going somewhere that made it impossible to stop and socialise with you.

How does not driving mean you can't get to the next town? Can you meet half way for a coffee or something?

justmyview Thu 11-Oct-12 11:08:54

You didn't know her for all that long. I think you need to accept that many friendships work well when your paths coincide easily, but then drift when the common link disappears. Most of us end up losing touch with at least some of our former neighbours, former colleagues, antenatal friends etc. The trick is to develop the confidence to accept that the friendship was important while it lasted, even if it then fizzled out.

pud1 Thu 11-Oct-12 11:10:02

When I say we see each other once a week I mean for about 5 mins whilst we drop the kids off. She did say last time me saw each other that the kids were asking about coming round so I said tue and thurs are best after school. She said that would be great as she could do the weekly shop whist they were here. It made me feel that she was just looking for a sitter whist she went to tesco.

The bus routes are rubbish to where she now lives. I don't ever expect people to just come to me because I don't drive but she passes me twice a day for the school run so it would just make more sense

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Thu 11-Oct-12 11:10:09

Leave it and don't do her anymore favours. Friends are often only there for a season or a reason.

pud1 Thu 11-Oct-12 11:10:51


JaxTellerIsMyFriend Thu 11-Oct-12 11:12:14

she is an opportunist friend, not a real friend. sad

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