To ask the MN jury to help me and DP solve an argument? (warning trivial)

[woopdiedoo]

DP came home from work and spotted a sweet wrapper left on the floor. It had been there since yesterday but I had forgotten to throw it away and hadn't been in that room today so didn't see it.

There is a rule that there is no eating in that room (his rule) but I sometimes let the DCs eat sweets, crisps in there.

We have just had a blazing row about it because he just left it there and told me to pick it up as I let the DCs eat in there and I'm at home all day anyway (SAHM with toddler) so should have dealt with it. I thought that he should because he'd seen it and even though I am a SAHM does not mean that I should do ALL housework and he should do none at all and I do not like being ordered to pick up rubbish as I am not a litter warden.

Who is being unreasonable?

[schoolgovernor]

Do you really need to ask? Who the hell does he think he is, that he thinks he can "punish" you in some way? I hope this isn't his normal attitude towards you.
By the way, it's not his room, it's yours as well. So it's not down to him to decide on a "rule" that you disagree with.

[catgirl1976]

Um.........he has a rule on where you can eat?


And you obey this rule do you?

[IneedAsockamnesty]

he is unless he pays you a far wage for every hour you 'work' inc child supervision and cleaning with holiday pay and anti social hours bonus.

hes a cock. if your an adult and you see an issue you deal with it unless you pay others to do so

[UnChartered]

OP, take the whole packet and eat them sat on the floor

what a child

[WankbadgersBreakfast]

He is.

My god, what a cock. Even DP who is being a dick right now agrees that as the sweet wrapper could have dropped out of a pocket or what-the-fuck-ever, he is totally U.

[picnicbasketcase]

Either the house and therefore housework belongs to both of you or it doesn't. If I decided to never pick up anything that I hadn't personally dropped, I'd be up to my shoulders in litter. He spotted rubbish, he should pick it up.

[pictish]

He is!
How petty and self important he is!

My dh would've picked it up, binned it, and not said a word. Like other normal people.

Does he bitch at you a lot then?

[MrsTerryPratchett]

He sounds like a wanker. That sweet wrapper would grow legs and walk to the bin before I would pick it up.

[SomethingOnce]

Your husband IBU.

What's so special about this particular room?

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

He sounds trivial.

You sound a bit bullied, TBH

[HecateLarpo]

That's very prickish behaviour. ffs if you see something on the floor, a normal person just picks the damned thing up.

Get into that room little woman and pick up. I Have Spoken.

If my husband did that, he'd have that sweet wrapper rammed so far up his arse his dentist would think it was a filling.

[Frontpaw]

Our rule is - s/he who steps/trips over the litter/fluff/junk/mud picketh it up.

[AllOverIt]

He is. What a knobber

[MrsRajeshKoothrappali]

So he saw it there, was irritated by it, then left it for you to pick up?



And then moaned because you didn't do it either?



And dictates where you can eat?



No, YANBU. But you knew that anyway, didn't you?

[flyoverthegoldenhill]

I'd pick up the sweet wrapper. Then when he's out tomorrow I'd paint the whole room bright pink- or jungle themed and make it into a playroom. Then sit down with a big tin of sweets.

[ilovemyteddies]

Do a shit on the floor, that will concentrate his mind beautifully. YANBU.

[schoolgovernor]

He didn't just see it and want her to pick it up. She had been naughty you see. She had let the children eat in the room and HE has a rule that there's no eating allowed in there. So when he saw the sweet wrapper (which he probably chucked there himself to make some sort of sad-git point) he decided that it would be a suitable punishment for her to pick it up. Naughty naughty wife. Should do as she's told. As I said before, I hope this isn't how he normally acts, I really hope it's totally out of character at the end of a bad day. Although having said that, him deciding to set "rules" for the household has a pretty uncomfortable feeling about it.
Twat.

[woopdiedoo]

DP wanted me to ask this to see who is right.

He wants you to know that he thinks the rest if the house is to an unacceptable standard. The wrapper should have already been picked up, he shouldn't have had to tell me to do it.

His words - the house is a constant mess, no tidying is ever done. He says I don't do any housework. The kids are constantly tripping over stuff on the floor and hurting themselves. He thinks as he works at least 10 hours every day he shouldn't have to come home and start doing house work when I've been sat on my arse all day. The dining room is for eating, the living room is for sitting, not eating. Also our 13 year old son wouldn't let his friends in the house because he was embarrassed of the mess.

By the way, these are his words.

[MissVerinder]

Jesus H Christ, Whoopdie! That's harsh of him!

[WhereYouLeftIt]

You have a toddler and he thinks you sit on your arse all day? Oh, you just HAVE to go away for the weekend and let him experience the total-immersion version of toddler parenting!

And he is an absolute arse. With a lemon stuck up there.

[TiAAAAARGHo]

If those are his words, you need to find yourself a new man my love. He's a cock.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I have one toddler and no teenager and I don't sit on my arse. Ever. What do you think of the state of the house? Do you think you do enough housework? Does he do childcare and housework on the weekends?

[pictish]

Oh hee hee - how he'd hate to be married to me! I'm a slovenly SAHM that fully expects my dh to pitch in with all the housework. And he does.
But then, my dh is a nice man that appreciates what I do in a day, and does not behave like my imaginary boss.

[TiAAAAARGHo]

And yes, he clearly has zero understanding of what child care involves.