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To think my sisters are acting a bit 'spoilt' and ungrateful for their private education?

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wandflower Wed 10-Oct-12 14:20:46

Hey, Am I being unreasonable to think that my older sisters are acting a bit spoilt and ungrateful for their privileged private education (which they now SHUN, being both rich, champagne socialists that hate anything 'privileged')?

My own beliefs are very different from theirs. They were both - in my opinion - extremely LUCKY and PRIVILEGED to be able to go to an expensive private school. I had different circumstances, being younger than they are, and went to the local state school. I didn't love my state education and lonnnged to be able to go to boarding school like theirs but made the most of it anyway.

I'm now pregnant, and neither of them have any children. Naturally the conversation crops up about what type of parent I'm going to be and what type of education I think is best further on down the line for my child (even if I can never afford it!). I happen to believe that a private education WOULD be really good, with so many opportunities for sport, music, drama, art, school trips and loads of extracurricular stuff (not to mention the upwardly-mobile friends) that THEY had, which I did not have. Instead I had a load of underachieving, 'problem' social cases in my school which I believe held me back from achieving and competing, which may explain my views on education.

But now all they do (unprovoked usually) is whinge and moan about how full of 'toffs' and 'spoilt tw*ts' boarding schools are. And I think, "But hang on a minute! Aren't YOU one of those too?!" I think they are being a bit hypocritical, given that they went to one of these schools too and sometimes behave a bit, well, spoilt! And not just that, also - to me anyway - they appear a bit ungrateful for the privileged education they had! Just my opinion anyway! What do you think? Can I reason with them?

whois Wed 10-Oct-12 14:25:25

Champagne socialism. My favourite kind of hypocrisy.

You need to do what is right for your kids. And you won't know that for a while longer. I went to boarding school for 6th form and LOVED it. So many fantastic opportunities and just a happy and supporting ethos. Loved going to a school where it was good to try hard, good to achieve but also good to just get involved.

Proudnscary Wed 10-Oct-12 14:27:26

Well they were the ones who went to this school, not you. So they would know more about it surely?

You seem disproportionately angry and bitter about it.

Why do they need to agree with you anyway?

It is quite a few years off until you need to think about schools.

Don't you want to wait and see how your child turns out and base your educational choices on their individual needs?

imnotmymum Wed 10-Oct-12 14:30:34

"(not to mention the upwardly-mobile friends)" confused

ll31 Wed 10-Oct-12 14:30:53

Think you sound as if your issues are to do with perceived unfairness you suffered tbh. Personally am against private education but each to their own.

FolkGhoul Wed 10-Oct-12 14:35:25

I don't think you need to reason with them.

It's not uncommon for people who have difference experiences in a given area to have differing opinions on that area. It's not uncommon for people to reject their own experiences (good or bad) and extol the virtues of the contrasting experience.

Just wait until your child is here and older and make education choices based on what suits them best.

And don't discuss it with your sisters.

StanleyLambchop Wed 10-Oct-12 14:41:02

YANBU, but who cares what your sisters say? I don't ask mine for their opinion on my parenting choices. You do what you decide is right for your child.

HoldMeCloserTonyDanza Wed 10-Oct-12 14:48:42

There's nothing hypocritical about them disliking private education, given that they didn't choose to send themselves there - your parents did.

LFCisTarkaDahl Wed 10-Oct-12 14:51:44

Don't bother reasoning or justifying just shake your head, laugh and say what whois said:

"Champagne socialism, my favourite kind of hypocrisy".

Iggly Wed 10-Oct-12 14:53:47

It's not hypocritical to not like something about which you have experience.

You don't like state education yet were state educated yourself hmm what kind of "ism" would that be? Stella Artois socialism? grin

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