DP used to be quite ballsy, it's what attracted me to him in the first place.
But as he's got older, he's seems to be quite happy to let this ballsiness slide.
Now, I'm not suggesting that he should be first to shout and get angry or put the world to rights day in day out over minor issues. But there are sometimes when, frankly, I wish he'd re-grow a pair of balls and say enough is enough.
Take our Landlord. He's private, no rental tenants association, nothing. His whole family know everyone within the council, so when, after 2 years of having enough I contacted environmental health about the appalling conditions in our house, we got a snarling call and abuse from him and his wife as the Environmental Health lot knew him and had grassed us up. (To be helpful, you understand. Or that's what we were told when we complained and got precisely nowhere).
Yet again, our heating system has packed up. We've lived here for nearly 3 years now, and it dies every couple of months. We have two different boilers, both look near on as old as me. The British Gas told him they need replacing, he ignored them and got a parts person to tinker and fix it. It is absolutely freezing in our house. We rang him at 12pm yesterday, he came out, agreed it was buggered again, and off he went, saying he would get someone to fix it that evening.
By 7.30pm, no sign of gas person. So, DP rings the Landlord, who says he wont be out until after 9.30am this morning. So, basically what has happened is, Landlord has rang, doesn't want to pay emergency fee so has just booked it as a non-peak call out time job. Leaving us to freeze.
At this point, I was ready to go ape at him, but DP told me to shut up and let him handle it. By which I e#mean roll over like a fucking puppy and do as the Landlord says.
We are stuck in a hole of a house with holes in the floors, antiquated heating systems that cost us £120 a month, windows that we've had to superglue shut, and god knows how many other issues. We can't afford to move and our local council (the one his family helps run) isn't seeing us a priority as he wont give us an eviction notice as it would cost him to get us out through the courts (that's the way the housing works here, or you are intentionally homeless). We are screwed.
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TheLazyGirl · 10/10/2012 07:58
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