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mummy1986 Mon 08-Oct-12 19:54:30

Hi not sure if i am in the right place, but i just wanted an unbiased opinion really. My DD comes home from her daddys yesterday and says he got in the bath with her. She's just 5 and asks LOTS of questions!
AIBU to not want her in the bath with him, even though it's her dad?

GoSakuramachi Mon 08-Oct-12 19:55:17

yabu. It's none of your business anyway, he's her parent as much as you.

BigWitchLegsInWailyTights Mon 08-Oct-12 19:55:47

Unless you think he's an abuser then yes...YABU. I would hope that if you think he has the potential to abuse, then you would not allow her alone with him at all.

Choufleur Mon 08-Oct-12 19:55:51

YABU - I get in the bath with DS (6). What's the difference. DH also still gets in the bath with him.

She's a child with her Dad.

mummy1986 Mon 08-Oct-12 19:57:04

For goodness sake i do not think he is abuser! Jesus!

GoSakuramachi Mon 08-Oct-12 19:57:27

Then what is your problem?

Choufleur Mon 08-Oct-12 19:58:55

Bet she enjoys having a bath with him. Do you bathe with her?

WelshMaenad Mon 08-Oct-12 19:59:12

What questions has she asked? Why don't you just answer them?

Dd is six and still hops in the shower with her dad sometimes.

Joiningthegang Mon 08-Oct-12 19:59:13


Does he kiss her on the lips too?

OHforDUCKScake Mon 08-Oct-12 19:59:23

Why would it BU unless you thought there was something dodgy going on.

I bath with both my kids.

And I kiss them on the lips and kissed their butts as babies grin

Littlefish Mon 08-Oct-12 19:59:50

You are being utterly unreasonable.

CoolaSchmoola Mon 08-Oct-12 20:00:07


mummy1986 Mon 08-Oct-12 20:00:14

I just think its a little weird. Obviously im the weird one.
And no i dont anymore, she has bathes with her baby sister.

hatesponge Mon 08-Oct-12 20:00:37

Whats the problem if they share a bath?

Whitecherry Mon 08-Oct-12 20:01:20

Nothing you can do anyway... Pick your battles, this ain't one!

Mooq Mon 08-Oct-12 20:01:39

Eh? Why is it weird? The OP is weird. Very weird!

coldcupoftea Mon 08-Oct-12 20:01:41

My DH gets in the bath with our 4yo and 2yo DDs sometimes.

I can understand how the fact that he is yout ex might make it feel slightly weird for you as you don't see him naked anymore and don't want to think about it! But imo it is perfectly normal and quite nice for parents to occasionally share the bath with their young kids.

WelshMaenad Mon 08-Oct-12 20:01:50

Why is it weird? He's her dad? Again, what questions did she ask?

BigWitchLegsInWailyTights Mon 08-Oct-12 20:03:10

It would be weird if DD didn't like it and he still did it. Or if DD was past a certain age...when she might want privacy. They let you DD began shooing me out of the room when she hit 8....she likes a shower in private.

Tweasels Mon 08-Oct-12 20:03:29



Erm yes you are being rather unreasonable.

mummy1986 Mon 08-Oct-12 20:03:39

I just think its a little weird, thats all.
I just wanted to sound out abit really, wonder if im being over protective and over cautious.

Pagwatch Mon 08-Oct-12 20:04:16

DD used to bathe with me or her dad until she was about 8.
Then she just got too bloody big and annoying.

I don't understand why you would have a problem with it.

BumpingFuglies Mon 08-Oct-12 20:04:57

What questions did she ask?

Whitecherry Mon 08-Oct-12 20:05:03

What's weird? You need to explain...

mummy1986 Mon 08-Oct-12 20:05:21

Again i dont think he enjoys it more than her!
And im not weird.
Like i just said I just wanted to sound out abit really, wonder if im being over protective and over cautious.

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