I had an unplanned pregnancy three months ago and it ended with me having a miscarriage at around 8-9 weeks.
My dp (I'll call him J) wasn't exactly jumping for joy about the pregnancy as it was unplanned but we decided we were just going to get on with it. J was supportive of me when I had a miscarriage, you know he wasn't devasted but then I wouldn't have expected that but I felt that he was supportive.
Three months on and I go onto Js facebook account, it was left open and I was having a sneaky look, not thinking that I was going to find anything bad but just curiosity. And I found a conversation that had been ongoing between J and a friend. J had been asking his friend if he was going to come out and his friend said no because he had his son for the weekend. J then replied that "f being stuck in with a kid, lucky for me mine lost hers", the conversation went onto Js friend was now going out with an Irish women and J said "f that leave her", and then J went on to say how the trouble with women is that we moan too much.
I am absolutely devasted that dp thinks he's lucky that I went through a miscarriage. I confronted him with this and he said he'd had a few drinks at the time and wasn't thinking straight.
Looking at the date of the messages I don't think he'd had anything to drink that day. I can't even look at him right now. I don't think I would be in the wrong to leave him over this.
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To believe that there is no going back for us after he said this?
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whoiswatching · 08/10/2012 14:06
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