DS1 is 16. He decided to leave school after his GSCEs to go and do an apprenticeship with my exH, which will almost certainly lead to a good job where he can always find employment. ExH is not DS1's biological Dad, but has brought him up since a toddler and although DS1 knows his bio Dad, he calls exH Dad. As exH lives a couple of hours drive away, DS is living with him and exH's sister.
Obviously I appreciate hugely all exH has done for DS and generally we do get on well. This is a really good opportunity for DS.
However, DS has gone to visit some friends he went to school with in another part of the UK for the second weekend since he moved in with my exH this weekend and when I spoke to ex he has no details or number for where DS is staying and DS has done all the arranging himself. He is generally a sensible boy, but is prone to odd moments of stupidity/immaturity as 16 year olds are. I feel that ex should have at least confirmed with the friend's parents that it was OK for DS to stay there etc, ex agrees but is annoyed I have said anything.
It's also become clear that exH has assumed DS will be moving in as an adult in many ways, although DS only makes a small financial contribution to the household each week. DS does buy his own clothes etc DS mentioned to me that he cooks his own dinner each night and has been eating 'freezer stuff' and tins of food. I feel that exH should be 'parenting' him a bit more and ensuring proper meals etc.
I do appreciate DS is almost an adult and working etc, but he works 6 days a week most weeks and I do feel a bit sad that it seems exH expects him to suddenly grow up, but am I being over protective?
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midori1999 · 06/10/2012 22:20
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