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Or just plain thoughtless to take a dessert to a dinner party

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deliakate Sat 06-Oct-12 18:00:23

the host is 6/7 months preg and asked for me to take the pud - I've made a Cassata, which includes 4 tbsp of Grand Marnier and 3 tbsp of espresso coffee. Should I take something else too???

legoballoon Sat 06-Oct-12 18:02:02

Personally I'd happily eat that in pregnancy, but if it's her first one (!) maybe you could take some fresh fruit and cream as a stand by?

WorraLiberty Sat 06-Oct-12 18:02:11

Ask her?

If she says she'll eat it, there's no need.

LineRunner Sat 06-Oct-12 18:03:08

A tub of vanilla icecream, maybe?

But it sounds fine to me, anyway. And delicious, tbh.

picnicbasketcase Sat 06-Oct-12 18:04:55

I think it would be petty and fussy to refuse to eat such a minuscule amount of alcohol as part of a pudding but you never know with some people. So I would probably take something else just in case.

squeakytoy Sat 06-Oct-12 18:08:06

I would eat it.. it is a miniscule amount of alcohol really..

JustFabulous Sat 06-Oct-12 18:08:55

I think saying someone is petty and fussy because they may have chosen to not have any alcohol at all is rather mean. Often, when it is your first baby, you don't want to do anything "wrong" and giving up alcohol is a pretty common thing to do.

Pavlovthecat Sat 06-Oct-12 18:09:06

No, she will absolutely not eat that, and you should not expect her to.

And it to me. I will have it, just so it does not go to waste.

GobblersKnob Sat 06-Oct-12 18:09:40

I once made a mississippi mud pie to take to a friends for desert, it had in it, rum and coffee, but like yours, very little. As I was pregnant myself at the time I didn't think for a second that it would be a problem for anyone upduffed, but one of the other guests was, took a mouthful, spat it out, cried, and we had to spend the rest of the evening persuading her she wouldn't have done the baby any harm hmm x a million.

So, proceed with caution grin

picnicbasketcase Sat 06-Oct-12 18:11:23

I get that people don't want to drink alcohol while pg, I didn't either. But I wouldn't have refused a small helping of a dessert that contained it. That amount in a whole pudding, then the amount you'd eat of it, it's basically a flavour not something that would get you drunk.

ENormaSnob Sat 06-Oct-12 18:11:58

I can't see a problem tbh.

MrsCampbellBlack Sat 06-Oct-12 18:12:12

I think its not a great pudding to take to a pregnant woman's house but then I didn't really drink anything in my pregnancies.

So I would take something else too. And if its not tonight I'd got to a little more effort than just a bought tub of ice cream as I'm assuming the pregnant person will have gone to some effort herself.

LineRunner Sat 06-Oct-12 18:15:10

I'll have you know that buying a tub of icecream counts as extreme catering in this household. grin

Gimblinginthewabe Sat 06-Oct-12 18:15:30

I was going to say the same as MCB, taking some fruit or icecream when it is the host that is pregnant isn't fair. I would ring her and explain that you made it then realised it wasn't suitable and ask her. She might be fine with it.

MrsCampbellBlack Sat 06-Oct-12 18:16:37

Well it does here to be honest - I just walked to the village shop specially wink

But god - I didn't even eat shop bought tiramisu when pregnant as was so scared of the alcohol - I was crrrraaaazzzzy in all 3 of my pregnancies.

LineRunner Sat 06-Oct-12 18:27:09

I like Carte D'or vanilla best. You could stick a flake in it for 'best'. smile

GoSakuramachi Sat 06-Oct-12 18:29:27

It is suitable though, so what is the problem?

Raspberryandorangesorbet Sat 06-Oct-12 18:29:55

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GrimAndHumourless Sat 06-Oct-12 18:31:33

GoSak some pg women prefer to avoid alcohol and caffeine

GoSakuramachi Sat 06-Oct-12 18:33:04

4tbsp of alcohol and 3 of coffee in a dessert for however many people does not remotely count though, does it? Not to non-hysterical people.

DontmindifIdo Sat 06-Oct-12 18:34:03

Well, more importantly, you should always take two puddings when you say you'll do pudding in case someone doesn't like one. (I wouldn't want to eat that, not because of the alcohol but because I will only consume coffee hot, black in a mug - I do not do coffee in stuff, however if there was no other option offered, I'd eat it because I'm not rude, I might pretend to be on a diet to excuse having a really tiny bit).

Pick up a cake as an alternative option.

lokabrenna Sat 06-Oct-12 18:34:38

I think you need to add some extra toppings, some shellfish, rare steak, unpasteurised cheese and a sprinkling of raw egg. Really seal the deal.


MarshaBrady Sat 06-Oct-12 18:35:18

Take it but get an alternative too.

Sounds too lovely not to take, but something else for the host and anyone else.

DontmindifIdo Sat 06-Oct-12 18:36:31

oh, and do you put ricotta cheese in yours? Because that's also a one pregnant woman are told to avoid... All in all, other than throwing a raw egg and a lump of tuna in, I'm not sure if you could make a pudding that ticks more of the 'foods pregnant woman are told to avoid'... wink

DontmindifIdo Sat 06-Oct-12 18:37:43

Lokabrenna - thinking along the same lines!

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