Use of double buggy

[JerryLeadbetter]

Expecting to be told iabu but mainly want some opinions.

Went into baby shop this afternoon with my 2dcs to buy something for DS. DS is 19 months, DD 4.5 months. I had them in our Phil and Teds- DD asleep in the front, and had put DS in the seat in the back (he had been walking with me on reins and was getting tired, so put him in to speed up shopping and give him a rest).
So I go into the shop and shop assistant asks if she can help, and then leads me to said item. She then turns to me and says:
SA: you do know your children are in the buggy the wrong way round.
Me: Er no...
SA: the buggy could tip over as is heavier at the back
Me: Er, well, it seems pretty stable and if DS Is in the back I hold on tight and make sure the brake is applied if we stop, and if he's in don't hang shopping in the back...
SA: I'm afraid you're still wrong
Me: okay
SA: I think you should swap them over
Me: it's ok thanks
SA: well it's dangerous
Me: okay. Now can you show me where X is please?

I think I was pissed off with her manner tbh and a bit taken aback, and annoyed with myself for not dealing with the situation better (it was awkward and embarrassing as the shop was busy). What I wish I'd said to her was this:

"Okay lady, DD doesn't really fit in the cocoon bit anymore to lay flat, the instructions say the seat at the back isn't for under 6 months and anyway, DD looks fecking uncomfy back there and can't nap properly. WHAT DO YOU SUGGEST I DO????"

So I'm really wondering, was IBU to seat them that way around, and if so, what the devil does everyone else do?! Tbh thinking of getting a cheap side by side buggy but the Phil and Teds is handy for shopping...

[LemonBreeland]

YANBU. She gave you her opinion and you told her how you were doing it safely.

She should have shutup then, it is none of her business.

[edwinbear]

YANBU ds (3.1) and dd (10 months) have always sat in both the front and the back of the phil and ted's. ds loves sitting in the back seat on the rare occasions we use it now, and dd is happier in the front. It is more likely to tip over backwards, as I discovered on the bus when I had dd in the back and bottles of wine in the front but as long as you are holding onto it, it's fine.

[SofaKing]

I also used to put the older child in the back often, DS1 and DD were both the older child and neither of them ever tipped it backwards even though DS1 is huge and heavy!

You should have told her to keep her opinions to herself. But the perfect reply always occurs to me afterwards too!

[CharlieCoCo]

As a nanny, i usually put the older one in the back, esp if they are the walker as they can just get in and out easier and the little baby stays in the front all the time. Would look weird if the oldest got out to walk and the baby was in the back and the front was empty.

[JerryLeadbetter]

Oh good not just me then

I tend to swap them over quite a lot depending on their needs/our reason for being out and about ie today I knew DD would be due a nap whilst out shopping and DS likes to walk a fair bit now so I like to think I use some common sense and come up with best solution. Often DS in front and DD in sling. Think I was as she made me feel like a moron

[Fuchzia]

It's so difficult with the P&T between about 4-6 months. I used to put DS2 in the back seat although he did look uncomfy it seemed better than my toddler tipping it back. I made sure he didn't go in it for very long, we had DS1's old single buggy that we used as much as possible. Now DS2 is bigger putting DS1 in the back works much better because the size difference is less.

[Fuchzia]

Oh and YANBU. Lady should mind her own.

[BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability]

Well my Ds1 is 2, Ds2 is 5m. There is less than half a stone difference in weight between them, so no one is toppling a pram over. She was BU.

[JerryLeadbetter]

Yes it is an awkward age at the moment, didn't realise having two close together would be such a ball ache when it came to getting out and about! Thinking of getting a buggy board for our single buggy for short trips, but DS is still too little not to need his own buggy seat for a day out.

I have a feeling we're going to be one of those families who ends up with about 4 different bloody buggies...

[edwinbear]

We have always done exactly the same, and swapped them over to suit the situation at the time.

[thebody]

We your children and buggy your choice. Go back tomorrow and tell her to retrospectively fuck off.

Cheeky cow bag.

[StateofConfusion]

I nearly always had my eldest in the back as he'd get in and out, never even wobbled! And I know many p&t owners who did the same. Ignore!

[hokeycakey]

Yanbu my older dd always goes in the back because she gets in & out much more frequently so if she is in the front the buggy will tip if she gets out, this woman was being ridiculous!