To not want to wake my baby....?

[Saltytomato]

This is a genuine question and I am kind of hoping that I am being unreasonable!

My husband wants me to drive him to the train station every morning. We have a 4 month old baby who is still waking through the night and is usually asleep when my husband gets up, so this would mean waking him every morning and he finds it very hard to get back to sleep and only naps for 30-40 min blocks during the day.

My husband can take the car, we can afford for him to park at the station, he could walk (he said he would do to but it lasted a week) or get a taxi -this costs the same as parking at the station cos we are very close.

So do you think IABU for not wanting to wake up my baby for the sake of saving about £16 a week when we can easily afford it?

[Neeko]

YANBU.

[coronalover]

YANBU - you and the baby need to sleep as long as you can

[nickeldaisical]

YANBU

he could even park at the station for a couple of hours and you fetch the car later on!

you've got to get your sleep, and he should be letting you.
especially if the baby is asleep too!!

[squeakytoy]

can he get a pushbike?

[rubyslippers]

Of course YANBU

Why does your husband want you to?

[DameKewcumber]

Isn't there a rule for new(ish) mothers "Never wake a sleeping baby" Even DS who is six knows this rule.

[Cinnamonkey]

Don't wake the baby!!

[Rosa]

Agree with Nick , let him take the car you walk with the baby to collect it when you are both ready and its not pissing down with rain ! DOes he want you to collect him in the evening as well ?

[Rubirosa]

He sounds a bit lazy. Assuming you are getting up with the baby in the night, then you and the baby should both stay in bed in the mornings.

[Saltytomato]

We were going to get him a bike, but now the weather is getting bad...
I get up with him every morning and get his clothes out for him cos he makes such a racket doing it himself that he wakes the baby! Even if I get his clothes out the night before I still get up to kind of shush him and shepherd him out the door cos he is so loud getting ready! But I do go back to bed after that :)

[Saltytomato]

Yep, in the evening too and this means sometimes it interferes with my babies nap and he gets really overtired and I have to spend ages trying to get him to sleep again :(

[Nancy66]

Tell him to piss off. He walks, he cycles, he drives...whatever. His problem.

[DameKewcumber]

tell him if he does all the night time getting up you (and baby) will get up int the morning and take him to the station. First night he doesn't do it - he makes his own way to the station.

[Rubirosa]

Seriously, he wakes you up every morning to get his clothes ready and drive him to the train station? Do you have a husband or a 12 year old son?

[seeker]

Why does bphe want you to drive him to the station?

[Squitten]

You have to get his clothes out, shepherd ghim out the door and drive him to the nearby train station. Are we talking about your DH or your baby...?!

[coronalover]

Oh goodness, I remember ferrying my husband to and from work with a little baby until I decided that DS's sleep (and my rest) were much more important than saving him 10 mins per day. Put your foot down and say you can't give him lifts anymore - or get his clothes out for him!

[Solola]

I like Kewcumber's suggestion

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

YANBU. He is being selfish

[nickeldaisical]

ignore that as well then.

he's being a twat.
and a lazy entitled one at that.

[rubyslippers]

Is he very passive generally?

You get his clothes, get him out of the door, and he wants you to drive him?

Jeez - he needs to get a grip and you need to stop babying him

[nickeldaisical]

and definitely stop getting up with him!

[Pandemoniaa]

If he's capable of walking or cycling then that's what he needs to do. You aren't a chauffeur, ffs. As for putting his clothes out, how many children do you have in the house? It strikes me that someone in your family has it very easy indeed and it isn't you.

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

I wonder if he's making a big heavy unconscious point about him going to work and you not going to work. Whatever, he's being selfish

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

I should have said "not going to work"