to take the dog to bed?

[SheelaNeGig]

He's not really allowed in beds.

But I'm cold and lonesome and he's snuggly.

AIBU?

[Anniegetyourgun]

Your dog, your bed. How can that be unreasonable?

[SheelaNeGig]

And I'm too tired to argue.

[NervousAt20]

Nop take him my dog gives the best cuddles lol

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

I had 2 dogs in my bed last night.

2 weeks ago I had 3.

The night I had 3, DH slept in the spare room :)

So no YANBU

[AnyFucker]

yabu...dogs smell, and who wants a smelly bed ?

[mum47]

Nope - I was cold in bed last night until our dog snuggled under the duvet at my feet! A regular occurrence, although it is not something I tend to broadcast, as it is something that people are quite judgey about Great for birth control too!

[SoleSource]

Yabi or yanbi up to you to decide :)

[BlaiddDrwg]

Me and DP share our bed with DS (aged 2) and our staffy. Most nights I end up cuddling DS on one side and doggy on the other DP I'm afraid doesn't get much of a look in

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

Eeuurghh
I'm not a dog owner (or TBH that fond of canine companions)
I know alot of people don't subscribe to the Pack Theory (because that wolves and dogs aren't wolves...)

BUT: if you give your dog his own space- a basket or a crate. And that's The Dog's Space. No-one can annoy him there.If he gets a bit fed up of the DC he can retire to his bed and only be disturbed if the house catches fire (or some other emergency).

But then you invite the dog onto Your Bed. What does that tell him?

Dogs on floors IMHO.
Dogs downstairs IMHO.

[quirrelquarrel]

I sometimes have a little siesta with a warm stretching guinea pig on my pillow....they're very good, they don't pee, and it's like a snuffly furry hot water bottle you shouldn't squeeze too hard.

[D0oinMeCleanin]

Whippy gets invited into our bed when she is scared. She is the least dominant dog I know, she still has her crate, she still uses it regularly. She still knows that is her space. I'm not sure what you are getting at Lisa?

As long as the dog still has it's own dedicated space, there should not be an issue. My terrier's 'safe space' is one he chose himself and is no where near his bed. He retires to under the PC desk if he wants to be left alone. There is no bed under there. His bed is in an entirely different room.

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

I'm not a dog owner as I said (most of the dogs in the UK would heave a sigh of releif that they won't be on my shopping list)

I'm 100% that a dog should have his own space and the owner should make sure everyone knows this.
But some dogs are naturally more posessive of the house and family members. I know alot of people encourage this (I do home visits at work and of course the Dog Of The House barks at the door because they don't know who is there). I say hello and they grumble off the the kitchen.
But I've been in a situation where a lady sat on the sofa and her large dog (it wasn't hers it was her son's and no way would this dog let me near the lady)
A dog like that, not even as extreme, might take the bed as 'his' territory.

And what happens if you poke the dog in the ribs while you sleep? If it snaps at you? It's a bit near for my liking.

Bit rambly.
But that Paul O'Grady programme was on last night. There was a tiny chihauhau who was very aggressive.The owner admitted she spoiled him. Then he showed seperation anxiety and was very bitey. And that was a tiny rat on a string dog dog.

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

quirrel I have 1 guinea-pig (my DDs pig) that I trust on a pillow
The other one (my DSs pig) would flood your bed and fart on your pillow.

[tabulahrasa]

I wouldn't have my dog in my bed - but as your dog being in your bed doesn't affect me... Do what you want, lol

[squeakytoy]

Our dog often sleeps in the middle of our bed, on his back, legs up in the air, snoring like a hog. You could poke him in the ribs, pull his tail or dangle a cat in front of his nose and he wouldnt budge.

My husband can get out of bed, climb over him, go the loo, and get back into bed and the dog will not have moved an inch, until he knows husband is actually getting up to go to work and then he gets into the warm spot and snuggles down.

Many mornings I have opened my eyes to find a huge furry face staring at me from the other pillow and a sloppy wet kiss before I get a chance to move out of the way! and then some days the dog is there instead

[ArtVandelay]

In the bed is yucky. On top of the bedclothes, maybe with an extra fleece for them to lie on is rather nice. YANBU if dog is not inside bed with head on pillow.

On a side note: How can you trust your piggies? Ours seem to 'let go' when they get comfortable and drowsy.

[midori1999]

It's fine to have your dog on your bed. Of course, like with everything else, it's best if the dog learns that it's ok to go on your bed only when you say it's ok, but your dog won't suddenly start plotting a coup because you have let them sleep on the bed. If dog owners 'spoil' their dog, which really equates to not training them, that's a completely seperate issue to where the dog sleeps.

I've been known to have dogs sleeping on my bed on occasion, they are occasionally allowed to sit on the sofas too, if I want to snuggle up without sitting on the floor. They wouldn't dream of going upstairs or getting on the sofa without permission.

Goodness though, sitting on the floor myself... what the heck must that teach them?!

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

midori do your dogs look down their muzzles at you and say :"Yes, yes. Floor. Good Girl. Know your place" before they yawn and settle on your sofa?

[cozietoesie]

Well in the cozie household, dogs aren't allowed on the top (bedroom) floor. At all. At any time.

Having said that, my senior cat sleeps cuddled up in bed with me all night/at any time he can get away with it so I suppose I can't talk, really.

[Liketochat1]

Yabu- I would hate the smell and the hairs. Bleurggh!

[Floggingmolly]

Yeah, go on. I wish I had a snuggly dog

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

Just because my dogs sleep on the bed it doesn't make them spoilt or badly behaved or give them separation anxiety.

I personally have no time for the pack theory BS because my dogs are not wolves, they don't think they are "equal" to me because I let them sleep upstairs.

They each have a bed downstairs that they do sleep in sometimes, they also each have a "safe place" where they go if they don't want to be disturbed which is also downstairs.

They come to work with me as well, do you think that makes them believe they are somehow dominant and they had better start paying the mortgage?

They are well trained ok I lie, little dog is going through a teenage rebellion and has decide to forget everything he knows about recall
They just like to sleep on the bed, it doesn't always have to mean anything.

If you like the dog sleeping on your bed then just let it sleep there

[ByTheWay1]

Our dog is not allowed upstairs - the thought of him on our bed horrifies me - fleas, ticks, smell of wet dog - ewwwwwww - he is a Westie so very hairy and tends to act as velcro to bugs and anything in the garden - I spend long enough grooming him as is - to get him to "bed" standard would take all day!

[CrunchyCowPat]

OP - YANBU. Dogs are great to snuggle up with. I usually have the cat, the dog and one or other of the children. Poor DH squeezes in somewhere but even I draw the line at Guinea Pigs. Mine wee and poo wherever they are so the thought of them on my bed is yuk.