It's only just recently begun to dawn on me how controlling DH is and there's a whole pile of stuff that is probably better off in relationships but just wanted to post this in AIBU as an illustration to see if it's me or him.
We have 3 DCs aged 12, 10 and 4. They all love animals - DS1 has been a real worry to us recently as it's really hard to interest him in anything non gadget related and, if we gave him a free rein, he'd spend every waking minute on the Wii or computer. However, I took him to this amazing pet shop a few months back and he was completely entranced by the reptile room and took a real shine to these miniature tortoises. When the guy took one out of the tank and let him hold it, his face just lit up. To get 2 tortoises plus the tank and UV lights would cost around £250. They cost virtually nothing to feed so there's very little cost after the initial outlay. As soon as I even mentioned it to DH, I just got a NO an that was it - no discussion, no explanation.
DS2 desperately wants to get a rabbit or a guinea pig as a lot of his friends have them. As soon as I opened my mouth (this was about a month after the tortoise incident) I just got, "I've said no animals". When I tried to ask for a reason, he just said because he doesn't want them.
On Sat, I dropped DD back at a friend's house and her mum asked in passing if we'd be interested in having a kitten as her daughter's cat has had kittens.
We already have one cat who it was actually DH's idea to get. He's no bother and the kids all love him and I don't see how having 2 cats is harder than one. Me and DD asked him tonight (I was hoping that DD might win him over) and he said "I've told you, no more fucking animals".
DD is in tears. I'm just sitting here thinking that there are 4 of us and one of him and don't we get a say in the matter? I work full time so it's not like it's his money that I'm spending. If me and DCs do any petcare that's needed, what grounds has he got to say no?
Sorry, that was a lot longer than I'd intended.
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To think that DH saying "because I say so" is a shit reason for not getting a pet
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upsylazy · 01/10/2012 21:32
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