we have been friends since we were 12 (now 34). She has had a series of relationships with commitment phobic men over the last ten years or so, and I have been there for her and listened/given advice many many times when she's been hurt and upset by these situations. She's a very intelligent person and does realise that she is making bad choices, and I have advised her to get some therapy to get to the bottom of it as she's always wanted a family and it's not going to happen if she keeps picking this kind of man.
Anyway the problem is I'm starting to realise I don't really like her, and this is a consequence of the way she has treated me over the years. I have had a few times where I've opened up to her about emotional subjects - infertility issues and also when I left an abusive ex partner, and both times she has been dismssive of my feelings. Regarding the infertility she said "well you've got so much else going for you you can't expect everything". When I spoke out about the abuse she said (in front of a group of friends) "ffs it wasn't that bad".
I have been thinknig about all this a lot since we went on a holiday 2 years ago where she got very drunk and screamed at me that I was a bitch and she hated me. I have not trusted her since then really, I don't think she has my interests at heart and every tme i see her all she talks about is herself, her bad relationships and how unhappy she is. When I told her i ws pregnant she burst into tears and told me how unhappy she was in her life.
I just want to know what other people think, should I continue to be there for her or can I walk away without feeling guilty about this?
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thefudgeling · 01/10/2012 14:35
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