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to get cross when people presume you want to share your Hs hobby

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BonnyDay Sun 30-Sep-12 13:53:09

h does outward boundy type hobby.
am sick to the teeth of people asking me if I do it too - or will take it up.

why is this?

squeakytoy Sun 30-Sep-12 13:56:15

It is only a polite question.. they are not saying you "should" be doing it are they?

Do you not like making conversation with people?? confused

fuckadoodlepoopoo Sun 30-Sep-12 13:57:27

What the hell? Its just a question! You clearly have a chip about it for some reason.

WanderingWhistle Sun 30-Sep-12 13:58:21

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

slowestwildebeast Sun 30-Sep-12 13:59:17

Thosr chumps! How dare they! smile

BonnyDay Sun 30-Sep-12 14:00:19

oh wow!
OH no its a regular thing and after a year or so. then they ask YOU what you do similarly.

very annoying.

Llanbobl Sun 30-Sep-12 14:00:39

Oh 'eck if that is all you have to worry about..........

It is just small talk, a way of breaking the ice and finding out a bit about you, a social nicety. How hard is it to say no you don't share that particular hobby and that you pursue [insert hobby] instead?

ZZZenAgain Sun 30-Sep-12 14:00:52

I see what you mean, you are not an extension of him. If you told everyone you had taken up crochet, no one would ask him if he were doing it too, even if you did it all weekend and set up your own business selling the things you made.

WorraLiberty Sun 30-Sep-12 14:01:49

Leave the polite bastards!

BonnyDay Sun 30-Sep-12 14:04:33

ok ok ok! I SURRENDER

i just thought it was possibly something someone else somewhere in the world might hate.

slinks off

BonnyDay Sun 30-Sep-12 14:04:46

thanks zzzzen

noddyholder Sun 30-Sep-12 14:20:57

My dp is upstairs as we type 'putting down the bass' on yet another track from his concept album He needs a backing singer everyone always turns to look at me! F off Sonny and bloody cher we aint

BonnyDay Sun 30-Sep-12 14:30:54


yes i will make H come to aerobics/whatever too

noddyholder Sun 30-Sep-12 14:33:56

I am endlessly fascinated/impressed when dp produces a track I don't want to know how he does it

MrsHoarder Sun 30-Sep-12 14:39:55

Nothing wrong with asking! Especially if its a good "family" type activity. In the early stages of our relationship DH started 2 of my hobbies, and I started one of his. Because we have fairly compatible tastes and wanted to spend more time together (note: we were infatuated teenagers at the time). This will be even better when DS gets beyond the rolling around on the floor stage: they are all very good things to take children to.

We have other hobbies that each other go nowhere near though. He knows better than to even touch my piano grin So people who ask are making polite conversation not trying to force you into it (unless they are my mother wink)

Trills Sun 30-Sep-12 14:40:30

Is it as annoying as people thinking that you must be interested in the sports that your children do? (instead of just about putting up with it)

BonnyDay Sun 30-Sep-12 14:46:12

good point trills

slowestwildebeast Sun 30-Sep-12 15:08:22

Maybe they're joking, as in taking the piss.

I get this off my friends who do loads of sport.

Friend A. "I'm doing bootcamp now"
Friend B. "Slowest do you not fancy bootcamp?"
Friend A & B fall about laughing at me doing anything sporty

The rude cows.
Maybe yanbu after all.

Littleprincessrocks Sun 30-Sep-12 15:15:45

No one ever asks DH if he likes cross stitch or card making. But then again no one asks if I will join DH in building the campervan.
Maybe our hobbies are too stereotyped genderwise? lol

But I wouldn't take offence if they did ask, esspecially if it was a hobby that is veiwed as more gender neutral - like walking/ cycling etc.

carabos Sun 30-Sep-12 16:10:18

DH and I share a hobby - or rather, my hobby is his work. People ask us all the time if the DSs do it as well. It's just small talk.

Birdsgottafly Sun 30-Sep-12 16:13:06

I'm the opposite, it annoys me when people assume that i don't know as much about Sea Fishing as my DP.

I am not as good at it as he is, but as good as most men.

The same applies to dog breeding/ and most outdoor stuff, etc.

the last time we camped,i was looked at in amazement by the other women when i was co-ordinating the pitching of three tents.

FutureNannyOgg Sun 30-Sep-12 16:19:47

My DH joined in my bellydance practice the other night, he is not the epitome of grace... He wanted to do more stuff together grin.

He always tries to get me to come and spectate at his hobbies, I hate it, because it's not the sort of thing I would choose to do if I had the option, but I do feel like I should be supportive even though I never ask him to do the same

geegee888 Sun 30-Sep-12 16:41:09

I do running, and a lot the couples both do it, so YANBU. Its pretty normal I think to share interests. In actual fact, some of the men whose partners don't do it and who seem to think that sport is for men piss me off.

LaQueen Sun 30-Sep-12 16:49:55

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

usualsuspect3 Sun 30-Sep-12 16:55:25

Why do people assume you share your DHs hobby? you don't become one person when you get married. It would annoy me too.

Mind you my DPs hobby seems to be watching Dog the Bounty Hunter and other shite TV

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