to feel really sorry for my friend?

[newmummytobe79]

I know it's none of my business what people spend their money on, but one friend has claimed she's really skint :( I was really worried about her but it seems her term for skint is not the same as mine.

She's said she can't afford another friends birthday meal in a few weeks - which would have cost in the region of £50 with transport - which I totally understood as it's not cheap and wished I could lend her the money.

But she's now posting pictures of cocktails/shots/champagne on twitter from a really swanky bar quite a distance away. As it's not even 5pm I'm guessing it'll be an expensive night (a couple of hundred quid at least).

Now I understand those f*ck it moments when you just go out and bash the credit card because you need a blow out (and sod the consequences until next month!) but the other friend will see these pictures and I know it'll hurt her although she'd never say anything.

I guess I just wished she'd gone out, had a fab time blowing cash she has/hasn't got ... but just kept it to herself :(

[whogivesaduck1]

i dont get it, why does she need to keep it to herself? and whats with the face?

[scarletforya]

Meh, I can't be doing with grown adults throwing themselves 'Birthday meals' -no-one really wants to go but they have to pretend they do. Organising big meals out for groups is kinda irritating for those invited. People would really rather be spending their money on somewhere they'd actually choose to go instead of a duty/obligation night out.

I'd say the 'skint' thing was just a polite excuse to get out of it.

[WorraLiberty]

Well of course she can't afford your friend's birthday meal if she's planned this expensive meal beforehand.

And really, unless your friend is about 10yrs old why would she really care?

[newmummytobe79]

whogivesaduck1 I feel sad for friend who will see them and know full well she's lying that she can't afford the meal - she just doesn't want to go.

scarletforya I love going out for my friends birthdays! And the meal bit is always a cover-up for let's get sh*tfaced and pretend we're 18 again

Guess I'll just stop worrying about both friends and open the :)

[FutTheShuckUp]

Perhaps this is an occasion for someone else that has been planned for a while?

[bbface]

So much in the world to feel sad about. This not being one of them.

[atacareercrossroads]

Maybe someone else is paying?

[nailak]

my friend just went to her partners sisters wedding, the club where the reception was on put her pic on their fb page (wedding abroad) when I told her she was panicking because she didnt want anyone to know she was abroad.

Her dps sis and bil had payed for their tickets etc, but she didnt want any pics of her at the wedding on fb, because she is on benefits and she is scared people will think she is doing something wrong or judge her etc. This is the first time she and her dd has met dps family and she has saved up for a year or so and started buying gifts for his family of ebay etc as she didnt want to go empty handed.

[nailak]

my point was someone else was paying.