this will be our 3rd christmas appart
dcs are 10&8 but I don't really want to put the responsibility of them choosing on their shoulders as they want to see both of us
the last year we were together he didn't get out of bed on Christmas day, the previous years he never made any effort and dd1s 2nd christmas he ruined because he fell out with his parents on christmas eve, refused to go for christmas day an it was too late to sort anything else out
so in short he doesn't 'do' christmas
the first year we were appart he came over in the morning to see dcs, then went to his parents and dcs and I went to my parents
last year christmas fell on my weekend, he never mentioned seeing them although I told him in october he was welcome and was told 'I can't plan that far ahead'
2 days before christmas he informed me that he would be picking the dcs up on christmas eve -I told him no chance, too late to change plans, welcome in the morning but he wasn't having them
I did say that we would discuss who had the dcs this christmas though
I've just asked him if we can talk about christmas I don't want him to have them but it's not about me and I want to be fair and he's said 'I can't plan that far ahead'!
surely it's not too early to be making arangements for christmas is it?
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numptymark1 · 29/09/2012 15:13
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