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To want to spend the day on my own?!

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Have a rare, random day off on Monday...my plan is to go shopping...on my own!

I have a bunch of vouchers leftover from my birthday, so I want to go, on my own, spend my time browsing and not worrying that anyone else is getting bored or rushing so they don't have to wait or feeling like I'm dragging them around (Nor do I want to follow someone around!)
I also plan to go and have a nice lunch...on.my.own

Mentioned this to a friend and she has now decided to come along...with big "Ooh we can make a day of it etc etc" plans

I don't want to! I love her dearly but I want a day on my own! When I mention this she laughs and says "noo thats bring! Come on we'll havefun!"

I'm verging on a tantrum right now!

SpeckleDust Sat 29-Sep-12 14:08:59

I hate going shopping with other people - a day alone is bliss for me too. Can you text her to say something has come up and you can't go anymore?

Oh, YANBU!

ramblingmum Sat 29-Sep-12 14:09:23

yanbu I much prefer shopping by my self, I always get talked into buying the wrong things if I go with others. what they like not what I like. Might be nice to meet for lunch though

susiedaisy Sat 29-Sep-12 14:10:16

YANBU shopping on your own is great, I have learnt to keep quiet when I have a solo shopping trip planned otherwise someone will always invite themselves!

ellathefox Sat 29-Sep-12 14:11:54

Yanbu!! I hate shopping for anything with other people. Either following you about because they're bored or taking ages and slowing you down. It's a total nightmare!

Thumbwitch Sat 29-Sep-12 14:12:15

Hmm, how rude of your friend!

YANBU. But if you can't tell her straight that you want to go on your own and have her accept it, then you might have to lie to her as Speckled suggests.

What does your friend really hate doing? Tell her you'll be doing that all morning. That might put her off. grin

fuzzpig Sat 29-Sep-12 14:13:53

No YANBU! Try and get out of it - say "no, I was being serious, I want a day alone" - maybe schedule a trip with her on another occasion to soften the blow?

I like time to myself, no, I NEED it. Your plan sounds heavenly... I'd ask to join you, but I'd rather do it on my own grin

suburbandream Sat 29-Sep-12 14:14:08

Oh how I hate shopping with other people! Could you arrange to meet her at lunch time and sneakily get to the shops much earlier so you can do your browsing in peace first? Then you can go back and buy the things you spotted after lunch smile

Glad I'm NBU grin

I generally don't mind shopping with other people but just this once...I want a day all alone...tbh I don't fancy meeting her for lunch either blush

Plus I think I want Wagamamas ...which she hates grin

Thumbwitch Sat 29-Sep-12 14:46:47

Well that's a good start - any kind of shops that she hates as well?

Alibabaandthe40nappies Sat 29-Sep-12 14:48:31

Tell her you are going to Wagamamas for lunch grin

YANBU at all. Days alone are so precious. Extroverts that can't bear to be alone don't understand that.

Meglet Sat 29-Sep-12 14:51:37

yanbu. I hate shopping with other people, other people faff and don't seem to know what suits them so take ages. I'm a ruthless shopper.

I used to love wagamama's on my own.

diddl Sat 29-Sep-12 14:54:14

I think if you´ve told her that you want to go alone & she is insisting, then she is being rude.

Have you actually given her any details of where/what time?

If not-just go-you´ve already told her that you want to go on your own so she can´t huff at you.

I've just spoken to her and said that I want to spend the day on my own as I've loads of bits to get et but we could do a morning not this week but next etc

She told me to "bloody forget it" and put the phone down grin

On the plus side I now have a day alone!!

BlackholesAndRevelations Sat 29-Sep-12 17:14:09

How rude is she??! Blimey!

Thumbwitch Sat 29-Sep-12 17:14:31

Hurrah! grin

Silly moo to get all offended on your arse though - she foisted herself on you in the first place, despite you saying you wanted to go alone! I expect she'll get over herself at some point.

fuzzpig Sat 29-Sep-12 17:17:05

Wow she is rude!

Walkacrossthesand Sat 29-Sep-12 17:42:01

Legopiece, I hope you are able to do as she commands and 'forget it' ie not let her presumption and subsequent huff spoil your precious day out. It's your day and it doesnt matter a jot if she thinks spending it alone is 'boring'. However, do you need to prepare some responses for next time you see her, and/or if she badmouths you to mutual friends with a bit of spin - 'legopiece & I were gonna go out for the day but she pulled out & said she'd rather go alone - cheeky cow' etc etc. Just a thought!

Purple2012 Sat 29-Sep-12 17:50:23

Yanbu. I dream of a day to myself, doing nothing apart from what I want to do.

fedupofnamechanging Sat 29-Sep-12 18:17:52

Can't be doing with huffy people. Hope you enjoy your day, OP.

I love shopping on my own and not have to spend ages in shops I dislike, with other people trying on stuff for ages and holding me up!

RobotLover68 Sat 29-Sep-12 18:41:34

And the moral of the story is…keep your plans to yourself next time! grin

OP YANBU

grin she can be pretty petty tbh

Not as awful as TerribleCuntMum though wink grin

I rang her this evening and she tried to tag along again hmm

So I said again that I'm going on my own....but I got the feeling she's going to follow me so we can meet up (she doesn't get at all why anyone would want to spend the day on their own!)

So I mentioned I'd changed my mind and was going to X instead of Y because I absolutely had to go to a shop that is only in Y not X

That was a complete lie...I'm still going to X blush

Loses friend of the year nomination

Thumbwitch Sun 30-Sep-12 23:34:33

Wow, she just doesn't give up does she!! shock You'd think she'd get the hint by now.

If you get a text message saying "I'm here, where are you?" please let us know! grin

Walkacrossthesand Sun 30-Sep-12 23:37:43

Ahem. Why did you ring her this evening?! Best to let sleeping dogs lie, surely? confused

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