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For thinking i shouldn't be getting constantly pestered by the local nurse and GP team to get my daughter immunises when i've repeatedly told them my answer is no?

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Lowla Fri 28-Sep-12 14:57:24

My daughter is 4. She got all her jabs as a baby, but i stopped at the MMR one. Since we missed the appointment, i've been getting loads of letters to invite us to the clinic for the MMR jab and now her school booster jab for some other virus. (Hib or something like that).

I've phoned the GP and asked them not to send any more letters out as i've chosen not to get her immunised any further for my own personal reasons, and worries over her last reactions to the jabs. And now i've got some nurse calling me asking to do a home visit next week to 'check on me and dd'. I asked 'is this about the jabs?' and she said, rather reluctantly, 'yes'.

AIBU for feeling like they should respect my decision?

Sorry for the bad grammar. Writing this in a rush as i have to run and get dd from school.

TheHeirOfSlytherin Fri 28-Sep-12 14:58:44

Yanbu to think they should respect your decision.

whois Fri 28-Sep-12 14:59:26

No. They should hassle you. YABVVVVVBU.

Because of silly, irresponsible decision like this diseases that were thought irradiated are coming back. Whooping cough anyone?

You're being a selfish idiot to not get your child immunised, it's for the greater good.

Sossiges Fri 28-Sep-12 15:00:56

YANBU Of course they should respect your decision. Don't forget that 'no' is a complete sentence.

Sossiges Fri 28-Sep-12 15:01:32

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Sossiges Fri 28-Sep-12 15:03:12

"silly, irresponsible (sic), selfish, idiot" - you don't mince your fucking words, do you?

mamamibbo Fri 28-Sep-12 15:03:25

that didnt take long!

Sunnywithachanceofshowers Fri 28-Sep-12 15:03:40

YABU. It's their job to look after your daughter's health, and that of the people in their community.

VeritableSmorgasbord Fri 28-Sep-12 15:04:12

I'm quite glad that there are protocols in place to ensure that you are aware of the enormity of your choice.
Of course you are still allowed to make this choice on behalf of your daughter and a home visit will not change that (and I presume you can refuse that too).
But it's good to know that they aren't taking it lightly.

Mydogsleepsonthebed Fri 28-Sep-12 15:04:29

Whois - what about people like me whose child is unable to have the immunisations for medical reasons?

worldgonecrazy Fri 28-Sep-12 15:04:30

YANBU. They should respect your decision and I would either phone back and cancel the nurse visiting, or waste her time by plying her with endless cups of tea and biscuits and a long conversation about whatever is in the news that day, anything but vaccination. If she tries to bring the subject up just say that it's not a matter open to discussion.

Errrrmmmm isn't the whooping cough problem caused by waning immunity in the general population because the vaccine isn't particularly long lasting, not because of non-vaccinators.

lisaro Fri 28-Sep-12 15:05:30

Whois I think you mean eradicated - not irradiated.
YANBU - agree or disagree with you - they should respect your choices.

sugarice Fri 28-Sep-12 15:06:15

What are your reasons for not vaccinating, if you don't mind me asking?

KillerRack Fri 28-Sep-12 15:07:00

I feel for you I do , I got mine all immunised seperately, but they are bloody expensive and was a good drive out.

Some people financially have no choice but too refuse, instead of taking the risk.

They nearly gave mine an MMR after I had told them I had booked that elsewhere I was shockangry had I not asked...

DanyTargaryen Fri 28-Sep-12 15:07:10

Yanbu sort of, but if its based on that research, it was overturned as rubbish and the doc responsible struck off.

Sossiges Fri 28-Sep-12 15:08:42

One doesn't irradiate disease, one tries to eradicate it. Whooping cough has never been eradicated and probably never will. The vaccine is not 100% effective, protection (if any) only lasts for a few years, diseases change so that once effective (?) vaccine becomes gradually less effective and whooping cough is cyclical anyway, which means that it comes around every few years, no matter what you do.

Kendodd Fri 28-Sep-12 15:09:12

"Whois - what about people like me whose child is unable to have the immunisations for medical reasons?"

Isn't it partly to protect people like your dd that we have mass vaccination?

LilQueenie Fri 28-Sep-12 15:10:07

Tell them to get stuffed. You can refuse visits and you dont need a health visitor. Did they ask you to sign a form declaring you would not want vacs? There is a form and after signing they dont send anything else.

For everyone telling the op she is in the wrong, go to hell. Her child may have a reaction she said. That is her putting her child first.

NatashaBee Fri 28-Sep-12 15:10:11

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sue52 Fri 28-Sep-12 15:11:49

YABU. I tend to take whois's line, though she put's it with more feeling.

Mydogsleepsonthebed Fri 28-Sep-12 15:12:07

I don't know KenDodd I was just asking the question. But my child cannot have vaccinations and will never be able to have them and to call me silly, irresponsible and a selfish idiot because my child is not vaccinated is just horrible.

VeritableSmorgasbord Fri 28-Sep-12 15:12:09

There's a tipping point, though, the fewer people are vaccinated against whooping cough, the greater the chance that it'll take hold in a population because of length and severity of infection. 'Some immunity' is therefore better than no immunity as it cuts down time of infection and therefore transfer.
They do spend quite a lot of time working this shit out you know. It's not like the immunologists are floundering about going "ah, we dunno, just give it to everyone and fingers crossed."

SpottedGurnard Fri 28-Sep-12 15:12:50

Kendodd- Yes! Herd immunity and all that to protect the vulnerable.

DP has seen measles in the hospital. The parents thought it was a simple disease to treat sad.

Mydogsleepsonthebed Fri 28-Sep-12 15:13:18

BTW the decision I made was not made off my own bat it was a decision that was made by a paediatrician at the hospital.

Sossiges Fri 28-Sep-12 15:13:25

Mydogsleepsonthebed I think you'll find that everyone who doesn't vaccinate is a complete bastard (except of course those who don't vaccinate for medical reasons, so you'll be all right grin) who doesn't give a shit about anybody else, the world or life as we know it.

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