I don't want this to be another benefit bashing thread, so want to clarify that isn't my point at all & also the DP in question works anyway, though I expect probably not so good an income. But putting that aside, the following has really p'd me off - actually surprised myself by just how much so wondering if AIBU or if someone can enlighten me on how the system really works, as if its as straight forward as this seems its pretty crap.
A cousin of DHs - I've met her once in the 14 yrs we've been together - DH, his DM & DS saw her at the same time (mutual Nans funeral) & thats the only time they've seen her too - DMIL speaks with her DF about once a month & they live in another part of the country, though not so far away to make visiting more often unworkable, but in short, just not close family at all.
It now turns out this Cousin has used having 2 cousins & an Aunt in our area to get herself offered a 4 bed council property nearby - no properties big enough for her & her 5 kids under 6 where she lives & she's annoyed they are all sharing rooms in the 3 bed they currently have & she loves the idea of living by the sea.
Personally I think she's stark staring mad, so does SH & DMIL she relies a lot on her family for help & won't have any help here - though DMIL did make a point of telling me she was looking forward to seeing more of me & wanted to know how far this house was from us - the one time I did meet her she seemed sweet enough, but weirdly she really latched onto me, never left my side the whole day & I got her complete life story, all her troubles included - I was polite as its a funeral etc, but I was a bit taken aback & did if I'm honest feel cornered by her & a bit p'd off with DH for leaving me too it, so theres a slight worry she's thinking she's welcome here & I'm going to fill in for the missing family - DMIL thinks the same, so felt it fair to warn me -
I can deal with that, rather not have to, but can be tough if I have to, but my biggest bug bear is how the hell can she get offered this house, on the backs of having family here she hardly knows, when we've friends living & working here all there lives in similar situations - less DCs though, but still a 4 bed house would be a god send - (one has 3 teens/preteens living in a pokey 3 bed flat & SN DC too) - who can't get moved at all. - how the hell can that be right
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rockinhippy · 28/09/2012 10:05
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