I have 3 dcs and work part-time. The dcs are all at school but do various sports/clubs so I am pretty busy. DH works away a lot and isn't around much to help although he does what he can when he can. I find that I have to be quite organised and plan ahead if we want to do anything extra. Of course it's nice to be spontaneous but as our week is quite full anyway if we don't arrange things quite carefully a lot of things will never happen.
But, I'm finding that I seem to be the only one who thinks like this and everyone around me will make plans, then change or cancel them at the last minute. I find this extremely annoying for several reasons.
This is the latest one - DD1 (11) had been asking for a sleepover with a girl from her class so I sent a text to the mum last Monday asking if Friday or Saturday would be any good. She said either would be fine, and asked if the older sister could also come, as she has no friends and is feeling lonely. I agreed as I feel sorry for the girl, even though it's a bit inconvenient as it means moving DD2 into my room for the night. Anyway. DD has been looking forward to it all week. Last night I received a text - "sorry, the girls can't sleepover as they have music lessons on Saturday morning". Didn't she know about that already? DD is so disappointed. She doesn't get sleepovers all that often as I have 3 dcs to consider and don't have the energy to do it every weekend.
So many things like this have happened over the last few months with different people and different situations. This one is particularly annoying as DH and me were invited to a 40th birthday tonight but we sent apologies as the sleepover had already been planned and I thought it wasn't fair to have the girls over then leave them with a babysitter. We won't be able to get one in time now I don't think.
Is this normal and I'm being too inflexible? Give me your honest opinion!
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scorpionne · 28/09/2012 06:54
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