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To be unsure about FB pregnancy announcements.

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Mylittlepuds Thu 27-Sep-12 19:37:33

The whole scan picture thing just makes me feel uneasy - it just feels too intrusive for me personally. But I can see that it's an 'easy' way of letting friends and family know in one swoop. What do others think? I'm wondering whether to do it (sans pic) in a few weeks time. However if the unthinkable happened, so many people would know. What's the best thing to do?

gothicangel Thu 27-Sep-12 19:40:56


do what feels best for you, i never posted anything on FB untill i was 35 weeks

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Thu 27-Sep-12 19:44:06

There isn't a best thing to do, only a best thing for you. For some people, putting a picture on FB will be fun, there's no harm in it if that's what someone wants to do.

Mylittlepuds Thu 27-Sep-12 19:44:32

Thanks gothic. Second baby but still as worried! I never posted anything pregnancy related last time until quite late on but this time I actually feel a bit self conscious about letting people know my news! It's weird but I just feel like I don't want to make a fuss and maybe FB is the answer. Interested to see what others say.

StetsonsAreCool Thu 27-Sep-12 19:47:13

I posted a scan pic to announce my pg with dd. 'Next' time (when/if it happens) I'll just do it in a status I think.

Secondsop Thu 27-Sep-12 19:47:18

I never thought I'd put a scan picture on Facebook ... Until my tests came back as a higher risk of Down's, and I knew I wanted to have the baby in any event, and it felt important to me to be publicly proud of the pregnancy from the outset. I can well understand how others might not want to, or who might find it a bit of an overshare, but it felt right for me in my particular circumstances.

IWantAChipButty Thu 27-Sep-12 19:47:22

I am almost 16 weeks and haven't said anything on fb yet. I haven't told anyone apart from family/work and I'm not planning on putting anything on fb until after the 20 weeks scan at least.

I'm quite a private person it just feels weird to announce it really! I think I will just mention it in passing or Dh will say something on his and they will find out that way!

Mylittlepuds Thu 27-Sep-12 19:47:44

Outraged yes I see its quite a fun thing to do but I'm such a worrier I tend to think of the worst!

thebeesnees79 Thu 27-Sep-12 19:48:56

I deleted my Facebook because I found it too intrusive. Its 100% up to you. I am on my third baby and only close friends and family know this time. oh and anyone who has seen me waddeling round, I am 38 weeks smile

EmpireBiscuit Thu 27-Sep-12 19:50:13

I think it can be really insensitive to others who are maybe struggling to conceive or have recently miscarried - but each to their own.

Mylittlepuds Thu 27-Sep-12 19:51:07

Aww thebees that's nice I think! This is quite shameful to admit but I'm looking forward to telling people partly so they know I'm not just getting fat! Oh God that's awful!

Personally I don't like it. But I deleted my Facebook a few months ago so I'm probably not the best person to ask!

Mylittlepuds Thu 27-Sep-12 19:51:45

Empire that's a really good point. I hadn't even thought of that to be honest.

thebeesnees79 Thu 27-Sep-12 19:52:57

haha know what you mean about looking fat! Not so bad when you have a proper bump, mine is huge now eekkk

IWipeArses Thu 27-Sep-12 19:56:35

Facebook keeps me in contact with people I don't see anymore, but who I still want a connection with, why wouldn't I want to share it with them? Everyone feels differently about Facebook, I understand why some people would be reluctant, but for me it's how I communicate with cousins, old mates etc.

walrusmoustache Thu 27-Sep-12 20:00:15

Each to their own. From my own experience though, when I was struggling to get pregnant, FB announcements were awful....I just didn't look at FB for a while

HmmThinkingAboutIt Thu 27-Sep-12 20:01:50

EmpireBiscuit Thu 27-Sep-12 19:50:13
I think it can be really insensitive to others who are maybe struggling to conceive or have recently miscarried

This with bells on. I despise FB personal announcements with a passion.

llamallama Thu 27-Sep-12 20:03:49

I have seen some fantastic pregnancy announcements put on Facebook, mostly involving photos...but not scan photos.

I like ones showing feet of mum + dad + pair of booties...saying something like "need to find some more room at home, we are adding 2 feet to the house" Or a photo of a teddy & paint pot sat in the middle of the spare room with caption saying something like "we have 6 months left to get this DIY done"

Or for second/third babies.... Sibling wearing Tshirt saying "big sister commencing June 2013" or "only child expiring June 2013" or kids holding up a sign saying "guess what?" then a second picture showing kids holding a scan photo.

Etc there are creative ways of doing it!

milkandribena Thu 27-Sep-12 20:04:10

Completely up to you. Personally I don't like scan photos up of FB but just a status I can understand.
I wont be (when I start telling people) though imagine it will get on FB by a cousin or something posting a congratulations on my wall after the news has filtered through the old fashioned way. I don't mind that at all.

cogitosum Thu 27-Sep-12 20:05:21

I would never tell anyone not to do it but I find scan pictures on Facebook really upsetting having had a missed miscarriage that was discovered at the scan. It's the whole thing of not being able to avoid seeing it as soon as you open Facebook. And one in particular was really soon after

The announcement itself doesn't upset me just the picture. But having said that it's my issue so wouldn't really expect anyone not to do it in case it upsets someone..

ZonkedOut Thu 27-Sep-12 20:07:53

Scan pictures wouldn't bother me so much, but I found a picture of a wee stick a step too far in announcing a pregnancy.

Mylittlepuds Thu 27-Sep-12 20:08:56

Zonked: nooooooooo!

Littleprincessrocks Thu 27-Sep-12 20:09:47

I personally did not do the whole scan pic thing of FB at all.
I didn't mention my pregnancy on there until I was nearly 38 weeks and was convinced the bracston hicks were the real thing. (Second baby so should have known better! lol).
I had 3 friends on there who at that time had been putting up scan pics, taking weekly photo's of their tummys to compare sizes etc. All of whom were all quick to respond to my post (Hmm think this is labour starting EEKK!) with questions such as "how far gone are you if you think you are in labour?!" . When I said nearly 38 weeks they all asked if I was sure as I hadn't said anything till now hmm .
I have no issue with other people posting them, just didn't think to do it myself.

Mrscog Thu 27-Sep-12 20:12:20

I didn't put scan pics up but I did change my status to 'Mrscog is 14 weeks pregnant'. I did think about potential sensitivities but there weren't any that I was aware of in my friendship group and so 'risked' it. There have been status updates in the past about things which are sensitive to me, but I see it as my responsibility to leave if I find things upsetting IYSWIM.

Mylittlepuds Thu 27-Sep-12 20:12:27

Are you sure your 38 weeks?! Ha! You should have said "Yes I'm quite sure thank you, and thanks to FB I know EXACTLY how far along you are too..."

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