'sort out your own weight before talking about mine'

[KillerRack]

I am youngish, always been big and am quite far on in my pregnancy so pretty big tummy atm, plus having to contend with SPD, awful hormones and severe MS and constant tiredness.
Was at a family gathering and an older member of my family who I is known for being a bit sort of tactless was chatting away, she patted my tummy which I sort of ignored I know people do that with no malice.
She was discussing weight with my DM who is currently dieting and even though I was half across the room talking to another person she decided to bring me into the conversation .
Saying 'you can get killer onto that diet as soon as shes got this one out' It was awful people could hear and were looking at me.
I made excuses to go and get a drink or something and as I was walking past this person they tapped me and started going on, "Was just saying how well your DM is doing and how she needs to bring you along with her after the baby, and get all this weight off!!*poking me all around my sides".
She was slim as a younger woman but like many older women has piled on weight with age. I glared at her stomach and said "maybe you should sort out your own weight before talking about mine".
My DM said that I really shouldn't have said anything but tbh I'm a but upset at the expectation that I should just tolerate it.

WIBU?

[BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack]

No you weren't - she was being rude.

If you can dish it out you have to learn to take it too!!

[lubeybooby]

YANBU, in fact nice one. Maybe she'll think twice before being such a bitch in future.

[KillerRack]

Hmm well I thought that too, I also think its an age hypocrisy thing too.

[gothicangel]

YANBU, and well done for that fab comeback

x

[ChickensHaveNoEyebrows]

YWNBU. She was rude and you batted it back at her. Maybe she'll think in future.

[trikken]

I think you had a point and were fine to say that.

[FunnysInLaJardin]

YANBU, very rude of her. You were right to pull her up on it.

[MadBusLady]

Nope, fair comment I think, long as you didn't shout it aggressively or anything. If she comments loudly on other people's weight she should be prepared to get the same back. And poking you in the sides is a totally different thing from patting a bump, horrible thing to do.

If your mum never rocks the boat with this person that's her lookout.

[Hammy02]

YANBU. Cheeky cow.

[MumsGoToReykjavik]

YANBU. If she's woman enough to dish it out then she's woman enough to take it. Good on you.

[NeDeLaMer]

Well done you!!

Congratulations on your pregnancy :)

[Whocansay]

You're my hero! I wish I had the courage to say that. Good for you!

[slowestwildebeast]

Yanbu. Rude woman.
I get people trying to force food on me. Any comments about weight or looks is out of order.

And the fact you're pregnant makes it ruder.

[Wheresmypopcorn]

I love it! Well done. She's lucky you were so polite.

[pollyblue]

I don't think you were rude at all. And if she's going to say things like that to other people, she should expect to receive similar in return.

Grr on your behalf OP. I can't stand people who think it's fine for them to 'tell it how it is/call a spade a spade' etc with no thought for how much hurt they might cause, and expect others to just put up with their nonsense. Well done you for (politely) retaliating.

[TheDogDidIt]

Yup, you were right. Your Mum is perpetuating the notion that you must be polite to people, even if they are being downright rude to you. Recipe for being completely downtrodden.

[ilovemyteddies]

YANBU.

Classy comeback, I'm grinning here and giving you a virtual high-five

[BonaDea]

YANBU. What a rude old cow.

[Kelbells]

YANBU!!! Quick witted comeback, I bet anyone who overheard you would've been impressed! Rude woman

[Empusa]

YANBU! I keep wanting to say that to MIL but haven't got the balls!

[HappyAsChips]

You were not being unreasonable at all! Well done you on a brilliant retort. Maybe she'll shut her rude, tactless mouth next time

[CaptainHoratioWragge]

well done for not taking it,
I only think of clever things to come back with in the car on the way home

[LadyBeagleEyes]

Yes, very rude and you were right to say something.
But as an 'older' woman, I'm still 8-10 in sizing and my weight has been pretty much steady all my life.
Just because you're older doesn't necessarily mean you put on weight

[blueshoes]

Great retort. You will get away with it too, as you always have the excuse of hormones.

[oldraver]

I've said exactly the same thing to my Mum. She constantly goes on about my weight how she is faux worried about me. She is a size 22-24 in her dreams, probably about 28-30 to my 16-18. She heavy breathes walking from one room to another, gets someone else to fasten her bra and shoes if she can, while I'm racing round like a demon on my bike.

Funnily enough she hasn't mentioned my weight since