Hi, MIL has always been somewhat of a challenge, but last night it all blew up. We go and stay with her quite regularly due to the fact she was widowed last Nov. When we go and stay with her I always make the effort to take food etc as she worries about money. I also don't expect her to run round after the kids, or get up with them. When we go there she has never made a effort at all. We don't even get offered a cup of tea. (If we went to stay with my family my mother would automatically have a meal planned, even if it was just beans on toast or a sandwich). Her idea of entertaining the kids is to put on the tv. Whenever i suggest going to the park etc she tells me to stop trying to be super mum.
This tho is not the main problem. When it comes to our DTs she always goes against whatever we say. examples include using biological washing powder when they were tiny on their clothes and bedding (and yes we did tell her to leave the washing to me! but she would whisk it off when i wasn't looking!!), smacking them when we told her not to, constantly mildly swearing in front of them, cuddling them to sleep when we are trying to get them to self sooth etc etc Basically if we decided to adopt a vegetarian diet as a family she would still feed them meat behind our backs. She is simply petty. If you say the sky is blue she would argue it was black with tartan check!
Last night I put the twins to bed and they didn't settle straight away, but as i have said we are trying to encourage them to self sooth as we have found by going into them winds them up and they take longer to settle. (we have discussed this with her) She walked past me smirked at me and practically ran into their room. When she came out I simply said i wished she hadn't and my husband said he wished she would respect us as parents. She went mad, flounced off to bed slamming doors on the way (it was 8pm) in the morning we told her we were leaving. she refused to say goodbye to DTs and said if we left we were not welcome back. We left. DH has been miserable all day. Sorry to go on , but am I right in thinking her behaviour was unreasonable.
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nothingbyhalves · 23/09/2012 20:21
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