DS (16 months) stayed at MILs for the night in the week, it doesn't happen often but she has him 1 day a week while we work, and takes him shopping and into town/ to visit her mother etc, then drops him back to us. We have never had any issues with the way she cares for him, except for 1 time when DP asked her to make sure he gets a chance to sleep in the day at some point - he is in and out of the car/shops so often he barely got 30 minutes, and would come home miserable and tired, and scream all night.
He came back from her house with an obviously shorter fringe, he doesn't look stupid but me and DP were furious, we had made it quite clear to her on numerous occasions that we didn't want his hair cutting, we like it long and will cut it when he gets older. I was quite upset also at not being there for his first haircut - sounds silly but quite important to me.
DP asked MIL if she had cut in and she replied saying that she thought growing it would hinder his eyesight, and she didn't think it would be a problem, so didn't think to ask or tell us!
AIBU to be livid? I can't imagine EVER cutting anyone elses baby's hair! To make it worse she then turned us saying 'never do it again, it's really upset us' into a massive issue about how we don't think she can look after DS (not true) and now thinks it best she doesn't look after him in the week, as she can't stand the stress.
Maybe its all the pregnancy hormones but it's made me really cross, and quite upset that she would use this either as an excuse (?) or to cut her own nose off to spite her face and not see DS, I can't see how we could have handled it differently except for saying cutting DS' hair is fine, which it isn't!
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