to ask how many people here have had a boob job?(76 Posts)
or more of an, WIBU to ask which clinics MNers used and use that as a basis for choosing? (Even though you're all internet strangers and I have no idea what any of your boobs look like?)
I have been spending so many hours researching and researching but there are so many clinics, all apparantly "the best"... I could look at various surgeons portfolios, but, really, they're only going to show you the successes, aren't they? Are they likely to whip out a picture of something that looks like Dr Frankenstein's work and say, "oh yeah, this was me too.."
I'm just stuck. It's more about the money, too, really, as even the most fucked up boob job will look better than the norks I currently have, but money is not something we have a great deal of so if I'm going to commit to paying for something for 5 years or so, it'd better be good?
Please help, MNers! If I could just narrow it down to say, four or five UK clinics, it would help me start getting consultations and really choosing, not just browsing and browsing and getting more and more frustrated that I don't know where to start.
I've not had one, but I think there is a Body that registers plastic surgeons, called BAAPs or something like that (brilliantly appropriate name). Ty might have a list you can consult?
Ha, great name. I will look at tht., thanks. I guess if there were two seperate clinics both with those registered surgeons I could then go with the cheaper knowing the actual surgeon would be the same standard? I'm sort of leaning at "expensive must be better" but the thought of what the price could end up being is scary!
Do you want to go up or down? I would love to go down, I am too chicken.
Up! And some skin removal if the implants don't smooth out all the wrinkles and stretch marks. DD (2yo) is currently pinching the loose bits on top and giggling at how far she can stretch the wrinkles. She's not long finished BFing so don't want to push her off or make her feel shes in trouble but I could cry atm!
Incidentally I think it might be the case that if you go up then they need to be replaced every 10 years or so, but that might be out-dated now.
if I'm going to commit to paying for something for 5 years or so
I have two close friends that have gone up and know a few, as well.
I have one friend who has gone down and had an uplift.
The two who i know well, had good surgeons,but have still had to have 'after work' done, one after a year, so you may be paying a lot longer than five years.
Ask about needing them done again, as no surgery lasts forever.
It also depends on your body and how it heals, builds up scar tissue etc.
One of the women has had her nose done at the same clinic, she is happy with all of the results, but has had infection etc and wishes that she had waited until her family was finished , as she will need them redoing again.
Sorry you feel bad, but I'm sure it's not as bad as you imagine. These things rarely are!
That'd ok, id rather pay forever n be happy with how I look. Sorry if that seems shallow. Doesn't help that DPs ExW has the largest most naturally perfect boobs she never seems to put away either grump face
She's not long finished BFing
Mine took a few years of my weight going up and down to even out again, so don't judge yourself yet.
My friend had young children and there have been times during recovery that she couldn't lift them, or give cuddles etc, this is during the infection stage as well.
I am kind of worried about needing stuff redoing a lot too - not bothered about the feeling rubbish recovery aspect, just don't want to have anything go really wrong and have to spend a lot of time away from DD to get things fixed x
That'd ok, id rather pay forever n be happy with how I look. Sorry if that seems shallow. Doesn't help that DPs ExW has the largest most naturally perfect boobs she never seems to put away either
During recover sex and cuddles with her partner had to stop, also.
Tbh, you need to work out why your DP ex's appearence, is even in your thoughts.
Can you talk to your GP?
He/she may be able to give you a list of qualified surgeons and you can Google for 'real' reviews?
Your DP's ExW should have nothing to do with this though.
I've had really awful mastitis before, so I can cope with childcare and work through pretty nasty boob pain, as I say just would hate to be in and out of hospital fora while n for DD to see that. Incidentally, how does one go about giving the "be happy with your body" message to a young girl when I've not obviously followed my own advice?
I got mine done and have never regretted it but they do need replacing now so finding the money is a bit of a headache. I fell into the PIP group
Do your research well and always google the bad results just so that you are prepared if anything should go wrong. Encapsulation, scaring and loss of sensation can be probs.
Mine look good but feel horrible
I have had two enlargements and some other cosmetic surgery too. You do need to accept that things can and do go wrong and although the risk is small, cosmetic surgery is considered a low risk procedure, there is a risk you will have to spend time away from your DD or you may die. There is also a risk that you may end up quite disfigured if you end up with bad scarring or an infection post surgery etc. Obviously these risks are greatly reduced by seeing a good surgeon and that will not be via any of the big, well advertised, national 'clinics' sadly, as these mostly do not employ properly qualified plastic surgeons, but cosmetic surgeons and there is a big difference, pretty much any doctor can use the name 'cosmetic' surgeon.
The best way to find a good surgeon is to either ask your GP or look on the BAAPS or BAPRAS register, but even some BAAPS or BAPRAS surgeons aren't ideal choices, hence GP recomendations are the best. Most surgeons that work within the NHS also undertake private work. You should also look for a surgeon that specialises in breast surgery and is prepared to tell you the truth about what results to expect, even if that is not what you want to hear. You should expect to see the surgeon themselves, not a nurse, salesperson or 'advisor' and most surgeons do charge for consultations, around £100-£150. Ideally you should see several.
It is also a bit pointless seeing anyone before you finish breastfeeding and any reputable surgeon will tell you so. Your breasts will change a lot in the few months after you finish feeding.
I like this about MN. Instead of "go for it hunnie xxx" its all "now were going to give you hard potentially unpleasant facts and a dose of realism" . I sometimes get a bit of "it won't happen to me" fantasism.
Giving up sex and cuddles is not hardship, as its not really something I have much of anyway. Except maybe getting DD to stop seeing me as a human bouncy castle might be difficult!
Oh, and they don't need replacing now unless there's a problem, but you really can't rule out a problem. I had my second enlargement ten years after the first and then after having those imlants in for several years (also PIPs) now have a possible rupture and severe capsular contracture which means I am in intermittent pain and require further, more extensive surgery with an uplift, which will not only be costly, but that I would rather not have.
One thing to seriously consider (and I admit I didn't!) is what if in the future health problems are diagnosed that would make a repeat surgery more risky? I have always been really healthy, never seen the GP and now I have been diagnosed with a blood disorder that means I am more likely to get blood clots after surgery and I have already had clots in my lungs, so there's obviously no way I'd have chosen elective surgery if I had known this before as it increases my risks a lot.
Thank you midori and worra . I will definitely ask my GP. The female GP at my surgery has been pretty good and seems very up to date etc, so I think ill see her she's also the type to give me a speech on not needing it though, which I think is why I've avoided asking so far. Thanks all x
One of the best things I ever did. Clothes now fit.
So... 1) you are hung up on the "perfect breasts" of your partner's ex
2) You don't get much in the way of sex and cuddles from him
Is a boob job really going to make you feel better about yourself ?
Don't go through with invasive surgery for all the wrong reasons. Actually, I can't think of any good reasons to have a breast enlargement, but that is of course my personal opinion and probably not a popular one, on this thread anyway
You're right midori. Theres a lot to think
about , and ill have to discuss with DP over it all too. But I think it has the potential to make us happy, and my boobs are so bad that my quality of life is genuinely affected, as is my job, because of my confidence, n it may well be worth that risk. If it goes wrong, there's a very slim chance ill actually look worse, and atlleast ill have tried, right? Apologies for any badly written bits here, I'm on my phone and its doing some very strange things :s
you having a boob job "has the potential to make (both of you????) happy"
I have to admit, I am a bit concerned about the way you have posted. If you feel the way you do (from your posts) about your life and your body, then I don't think a boob job is going to change that. It will make your boos bigger/different, it won't change your life.
This might sound a bit bizarre, considering the amount of surgery I have had, but in your situation I would explore other options before going under the knife. Sorry.
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