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For grounding my daughter for reading a book on how to get famous???

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MelissaCr Thu 20-Sep-12 20:47:39

A couple of days ago I oerheard my 16 year old daughter talking about ways to make the perfect sex tape with her best friend. I interupted the conversation and found that they were reading a book that teaches the many ways of becoming famous (including making and leaking a sex tape!!)

I grounded her but she feels I'm overreacting. Am I?

Any advice will help ;-)

usualsuspect3 Thu 20-Sep-12 20:49:13

really?

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Thu 20-Sep-12 20:49:52

Erm....I don't think grounding a 16 year old is useful.

Better to educate her on why pornography is bad..why not pop over to the feminist boards for advice on some reading matter for her?

Iggly Thu 20-Sep-12 20:50:30

YABU

It's a book?!

aldiwhore Thu 20-Sep-12 20:51:13

Grounding her is daft, sorry.

What is required is a decent library to combat the shite she's reading and a discussion about whether she really thinks thats a great idea. Maybe she read it and thought YAMGWTF! and discussed it with her friend, maybe they even joked about it... there are women up and down the country who've read that dreadful Grey Triology that are talking about cable ties, even if they loathed the book!

I DO feel you're over reacting in your punishment of your DD. I don't feel you're over reacting in your shock.

Time for chats, not punishment. If you punish, she'll think you disaprove of discussion. Let her read that book (too late!) ask her what she feels about it.

YABU and YANBU.

BorisJohnsonsHair Thu 20-Sep-12 20:51:34

What good will "grounding" do? Far better to talk to her about it and advise her there are more important things in life than being famous.

LollipopViolet Thu 20-Sep-12 20:51:44

Yes, I think that's an overreaction.

Far better to discuss why it's inappropriate, and why that industry is bad IMO.

PrincessOfChina Thu 20-Sep-12 20:52:24

Tell her not to be a knob. That should sort it.

Socknickingpixie Thu 20-Sep-12 20:53:37

yabu to ground her and by listening in on her conversation

LaurieFairyCake Thu 20-Sep-12 20:53:53

No grounding. Talk to her, engage with her.

Surely you've done a good enough job raising her for this just to be an intellectual exercise and not something she's seriously considering?

PrincessOfChina Thu 20-Sep-12 20:54:17

Sorry, that sounds flippant but I doubt she actually thinks this is a good idea. I would unground her and tell her to stop being an idiot and start showing that she deserves your trust.

Mrsjay Thu 20-Sep-12 20:54:48

Tell her not to be a knob. That should sort it

grin

also stop her from going on the internet and watching kardashians why ground her talk to her about it ,

wigglesrock Thu 20-Sep-12 20:55:38

I'm not sure what you're grounding her for? A conversation with her friend or reading a book you don't approve of?

WorraLiberty Thu 20-Sep-12 20:56:43

What's the book called?

Joiningthegang Thu 20-Sep-12 21:12:14

Yabu
That is all

DogsCock Thu 20-Sep-12 21:14:17

yabu

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 20-Sep-12 21:15:11

grin worra. Getting ideas?

TheCalmingManatee Thu 20-Sep-12 21:22:02

YANBU to be horrified but you have scored an own goal by grounding her. Rather explain to her, in an open discussin why A) being famous for being famous is hardly something to aspire to and B) why porn (even "soft" porn) is really bad. If you react by grounding and punishing her you are paving the way for her to be secretive and not feel she can come to you when she needs advice on something of a sensitive nature.

THAT is all smile

TheCalmingManatee Thu 20-Sep-12 21:22:56

errr, sorry to hijack but WTF would you have the NN "Dogscock" hmm

BackforGood Thu 20-Sep-12 21:27:22

Agree with everyone else, YANBU to be horrified, but I don't think grounding her is the answer.

FredFredGeorge Thu 20-Sep-12 21:30:40

I think you're right to ground her, if she's going to become famous knowing how to read isn't going to help, she needs to start slapping on the fake tan and hanging out where footballers will find her.

milkteef Thu 20-Sep-12 21:33:38

YABU. It's a book. Educate her rather than grounding her.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds Thu 20-Sep-12 21:37:24

Fame at any price seems to be the goal of so many young people these days. It's so sad.

OP does she understand the difference between famous and infamous ??Between the A List, where people are usually famous and respected because they are really really good at something, and the B/C/D/Z list full of losers who will do anything to be gossiped about and are looked down upon?

SirGOLDBoobs Thu 20-Sep-12 21:40:06

Grounding her isn't going to fix it. Discussing the reality of fame, and how you can't just create it, is a better track.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Thu 20-Sep-12 21:41:21

Yes, YABU.

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