To go on holiday with just OH and his parents?

[IRCL]

DP's Mum and Dad have just booked for us to go on holiday with them, we just need spending money, very generous of them.

They also paid for DD, who's 2, They paid £46 for her, I have however since changed my mind about taking her. I just want to be able to relax for a couple of days and not have to worry about watching her near the pool etc.

Me and DP have had a shit year, we have suffered 3 MC's, his friend died, got made redundant, all in all it has been crap. It will be mine and DP anniversary too.

DD would be looked after by my mum for 4 days.

AIBU to go with DP for a few days and just relax without having to have eys in the back of my head?

[WorraLiberty]

Sounds perfect to me

Only you know if your DD will be ok with your Mum

[TellyBug]

YANBU.

[JeezyPeeps]

Sounds great, what do the IL's think? They might be a big miffed if they don't get to spend some time with their gd, especially as they've paid for her.

[tartyflette]

Of course not! Go and have a lovely relaxing time, it's only four days and it sounds like you really need the break. You could offer the £46 back to your ILs. though.

[newyearnewattitude]

But what if Dps parents have paid for her so they can spend some time with your DD? Would they be willing to do most of the watching? If thy are okay with it then go for it and have a relaxing time

[ReindeerBollocks]

If you told the in laws all of the above, surely they wouldn't mind you going with just DP.

They might be looking forward to time with your DD, yes, but if they are normally supportive and nice, I'm sure they'll understand. Enjoy your holiday.

[IRCL]

Thanks, we have offered to reimburse them, they said it doesn't matter but we still will.

Hmm well DD isn't their Bio GD, although you wouldn't be able to notice this if you didn't know as they dote on her.

They did offer to watch her for us but I couldn't let them do that, after all it is their holiday too.

[JeezyPeeps]

Well, of they are happy with it then go for it - and enjoy!

[TheEnthusiasticTroll]

i couldnt really say you are being UR, but I wouldnt, I never understand folk that go on holiday without dcs.

[threefeethighandrising]

i would say - just check that spending time with your DD wasn't the whole point of them paying for you?

If my MIL paid for DP, DS and i to go on holiday with her, the main point would be to give a holiday to DS and for her to spend time with him.

Of course may well be completely different in your family, but just worth checking maybe?

[AllYoursBabooshka]

I say go for it.

Sorry you have had such a rough time recently, have a lovely holiday and a wonderful anniversary! :)

[IRCL]

Thanks, they were offering to take us away because of the crap year and also to celebrate DP's dads birthday. All in all it would just be nice to have a bit of me time, well me and DP time. I realise I probably come across a bit selfish though in saying that.

[JeezyPeeps]

Your dd will have a great time with her grandmother, and will be spoiled rotten. She won't remember a trip away, and will get the benefit of a more relaxed mum when you get home.