DP and I are going to get married .
We are looking at venues near where we live, and had identified 6 venues that fit our requirements.
One venue in particular took our fancy, due to the lovely building and the fact that we could use external caterers. I phoned up the venue about a week ago and asked to make an appointment for DP and I to visit to view the building and discuss options. The person I spoke to on the phone seemed strangely reluctant to book us a visit. He first of all wanted to know when we want to get married. I explained that we are hoping to do so in Spring next year, but have no specific date in mind and can be flexible according to the availability of the venue. The guy stated that he wanted to make sure that he had availability for our preferred dates before booking an appointment to view. I suggested a couple of weekends, and he said there was no availability. I then asked him when he did have availability, within a range of three months. He stated that it was not easy for him to look up when they had availability without me giving him a date to check . Eventually, I managed to come up with date when he said he had availability, and he agreed to book us an appointment to come to view the venue - but said that the earliest he could fit us in to do so was more than three weeks hence (every other venue we are interested in has arranged for us to visit the same week).
20 minutes later, he emailed me with the brochure, but stated that he had just realised that someone was viewing the following day, who had expressed an interest in the date I had agreed was suitable. He stated that he was therefore cancelling our viewing appointment. I immediately replied to ask him not to cancel the appointment saying that DP and I "are flexible regarding the date for our wedding. We will be fixing a date based on the availability of our preferred venue, not choosing a venue to suit a specified date". Later the same day he emailed back saying "I do not wish to book any appointments for a site visit until we are sure that we have the date available. I am happy to discuss availability if you provide me with dates (or less specific- such as a two week window) for when you are thinking to hold your wedding". Somehow, this email ended up in my Spam filter, so I did not receive it.
I phoned up again today to say that we had now viewed all the other venues, and were wondering if we could bring forward the viewing appointment, as we want to make a decision as soon as possible. I unfortunately go the same person on the phone again, and he informed me of the email that had ended up in my Spam filter cancelling our original arrangement. We again went through the rigmarole of him asking me to specify exactly when DP and I want to get married. He would not accept that we are basically happy to get married any time next year and kept asking for a specific date. Also the availability of the next viewing appointment is now 4 weeks away!
Yes, I get that they are a busy, popular venue, but then so are the other places we have looked at, which also only have a few days still available in Spring 2013. Everywhere else has welcomed us to view and discuss our preferences.
AIBU to think that this is a truly bizarre way to promote a business, and that based on their attitude so far, this venue may not be the most accommodating, stress-free, welcoming place to hold a wedding, and that we should probably give them a swerve anyway?
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AIBU?
To think this is probably not a good place to get married anyway?
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Thistledew · 13/08/2012 23:47
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