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AIBU?

to be annoyed at the snarly/growly woman?

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mumnosGOLDisbest · 11/08/2012 22:04

Standing in a busy queue with dd 4yrs (who is small/average) she accidently stepped on the lady' toe. I saw so i immediately said "sorry" and said to dd she should be careful and stand still. The woman turned and looked at dd then growled said in a nice voice "ouch that was my toe". Shw paid for her things then made a point of limping away. Now if that qas you and you already had a broken toe/foot/poorly foot then i'm sorry but it wwas truly just an accident otherwise aibu to think that was a massive overreaction and the woman was a complete cow a bit harsh and really upset my dd?

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LastMangoInParis · 11/08/2012 22:06

Wine and forget all about it!

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squeakytoy · 11/08/2012 22:06

How did your daughter stand on the toe of someone who was queuing in front of you??

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WorraLiberty · 11/08/2012 22:06

"ouch that was my toe"

Sorry I'm not getting why you're annoyed? Confused

How do you know she 'made a point' of limping away? She could have been hurt.

If your DD had apologised for herself, perhaps the lady might have said "That's ok" and grimaced through the pain?

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MrsMangelfanciedPaulRobinson · 11/08/2012 22:08

I think some people do make a big drama out of things tbh. I was in a shop the other week and DS suddenly legged it away from me and I said 'X, come back' and a man started making a big fuss saying I spoke too loudly and had made him jump. I did apologise but I didn't shout, just spoke loudly and firmly.

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JumpingThroughHoops · 11/08/2012 22:09

the lady may have been diabetic ... your flat footed heffalump might have caused her to get gangrene and loose a toe.

Unlikely, yet possible - but of course you are over reacting because you said the lady spoke nicely

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rainbow2000 · 11/08/2012 22:13

But op said sorry its not as if she done Riverdance on the womans toe.She did apologise and say sorry.Her dd is 4 a child but the Adult limped away after a child stood on her toe.Huge over reaction on the adults part.
So in my part yanbu.

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Anifrangapani · 11/08/2012 22:13

thinks twice about doing poor comedic routine to keep other peoples kids amused

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WorraLiberty · 11/08/2012 22:15

How do you know she hadn't broken her toe in the past, had a blister on it, had corns, bunions etc....

The list of reasons why it might have hurt are endless

I really don't think "ouch that was my toe" is a big deal?

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ilovesooty · 11/08/2012 22:16

I can't see what the big deal is here. It's not as if the woman yelled at the child.

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TheCrackFox · 11/08/2012 22:16

She might have had a very bad nail infection.

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ilovesooty · 11/08/2012 22:16

X - post Worra Grin

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LookBehindYou · 11/08/2012 22:17

Don't you think she might have been pulling your leg?

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rainbow2000 · 11/08/2012 22:18

But the person who stood on her toe doesnt know that.Why make a big deal of it especially as a child did it.They arent the heaviest people.
I bet if a 16 stone rugby player done it she would have smiled and said its alright.Loves the drama i bet

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mumnosGOLDisbest · 11/08/2012 22:19

The lady was kind of standing sideways. Dd would have apologised herself if the woman hadnt reacted so quickly and angrily and if she wasnt only 4 and shy.
worra im not annoyed as such just reflecting on the day. Dd wasnt running around just fidgeting in a long queue and i think the woman could have been a little less aggressive. I did apologise and tell dd to take more care, even though i am now hoping she does get gangrene

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ilovesooty · 11/08/2012 22:21

I bet if a 16 stone rugby player done it she would have smiled and said its alright.Loves the drama i bet

How ridiculous.

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happybubblebrain · 11/08/2012 22:22

Some people are just miserable and horrible.
Forget about it.

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LookBehindYou · 11/08/2012 22:23

Ok, now YABU. You have no idea whether the woman was hurt or not. If I was absolutely sure that she wasn't just trying to joke I would feel terrible that someone had been hurt.

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squeakytoy · 11/08/2012 22:24

If she reacted so quickly then it sounds like she may have had an injured toe, or a bunion, blister, arthritis, who knows. It does sound like your daughter did accidentally hurt her.

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WorraLiberty · 11/08/2012 22:25

Dear lord she didn't make a big deal about it at all!

"Oy you, that was my toe. Why don't you keep your child under control. This is a queue, not a playground. It's really hurting me now...."

That's making a big deal

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MagicHouse · 11/08/2012 22:31

Some people are just grumpy! Don't take it personally - there might have been a million reasons why she was in a bad mood not related to your DD. I don't think a little girl accidentally treading on your toe warrants a fierce response (unless she has gout!)

Some woman glared really nastily at my DD in a shop the other day, because she wasn't looking where she was going and I asked her to look out as there was a trolley coming. She ended up stopping to one side of this woman's trolley - didn't touch her, no harm done, she hadn't been running/ making a noise - in fact she'd avoided bumping into the woman, who could very easily have then continued to move on past my DD. But the woman stopped dead and glared at my DD as if she was a nasty smell. I just smiled at DD and said "well done for stopping :-)" and we carried on shopping.

When people are grumpy like that, especially towards a small child who wasn't doing anything malicious, it can be quite upsetting. But I agree with the PP who advised Wine and to forget it!

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mumnosGOLDisbest · 11/08/2012 22:35

Ok as i said in my op if she was hurt (because she gad a bunion,broken toe etc) then of course i was sorry on behalf of dd who was taken a back and only 4 and a bit shy. I did apologise. Dd was under control just moving from foot to foot in a busy queue. It wasnt a quick "ouch" it was a quick full on stare and in your face telling off response. I dont think it was appropriate for a small child

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SoleSource · 11/08/2012 22:38

You fucking serious? Get a fucking grip.

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mumnosGOLDisbest · 11/08/2012 22:41

Great advice sole thanks magic i'll have that Wine i do wonder if some people were ever kids!

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BlueMoon74 · 11/08/2012 22:43

YANBU - except that your daughter should have apologised, not you! Maybe that's the point the growly woman was trying to make! :)

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CouthyMow · 11/08/2012 22:44

I have a broken toe currently. When my OWN DC stand on it they get growled at. Or I yelp. And I AM limping. I may well growl if other people's DC stand on it too. From pain. Mostly because a broken toe FUCKING HURTS when it is trodden on.

I'm just glad I know it wasn't me, as I haven't been shopping today! Blush

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