AIBU to appreciate mumsnetters listening to me?

[missymoss]

I feel I can have a laugh, be myself, be a little bit silly, be truthful, admit what worries me, be able to say things I cant in real life, be able to look forward to all of this after a stressy week at work.

Its what keeps me going sometimes.

I can go all week without it.

But, I would just like to say thank you, after all the crap we all go through in real life & all the bad stuff in the news, that I can sit and get it all out with lovely people.

AIBU to feel so emotive?

[WorraLiberty]

Sorry, what was that?

[missymoss]

[SoleSource]

Yabu to go a whole week without MN.

[ssd]

good for you, I feel the same

sometimes, when something gets to me but I know its too petty to discuss with dh (who is a man and sees life in black and white), I can discuss it here and know someone will listen/agree/hug me/tell me IABU!!

just now the things bugging me is my neighbours, for years I was friendly with one of them but now another neighbour has decided to make my friend her best friend and the 2 families are all together all the time and I'm feeling a bit left out and hurt my neighbour friend has sort of dumped me, I know it sounds trivial and pathetic but I feel a bit like a 7 year old left out of a game

both these neighbours have kids of the same gender who play together, my kids are different genders/ages and I'm not included in anything, but their cliqueyness is starting to get to me

[naturalbaby]

a whole week without MN??? I think I can go a whole hour.

[missymoss]

Ahhh ssd, I know what you mean. Without M.N I honestly think I am stronger, I have definately grown a back bone in R.L in situations when I would have just shut up! (Including D.P) And I thought I was strong before

[missymoss]

I mean WITH!

[SoleSource]

Ssd it'll all end in their tears not yours. Just wait and see...

[ssd]

I thought the same......

the families are together all the time, they never do anything separate, its wierd, even ds2 said they are like one big family now

I guess my friend just likes the other family better, thats just life isnt it

[missymoss]

Leave the Bastards - you are worth more x

[londone17]

Ssd, that's a pity but what'll they do if one of them moves or they fall out? I've seen it happen. That's why I don't agree with cliques and gangs. When they exclude others they also exclude themselves. Then they'll need your friendship again and that'll be the day you'll turn your back.

[ssd]

you're right londone17, that's how I feel

I've been a good friend to the neighbour friend in the past, I would be more cautious about putting myself out for her in the future

I hate it when things like this happen in life though, makes you a bit more cautious and weary

[londone17]

Sorry ssd, got called away.

Understand how you feel being left out and used as there's no need for it. You could have all been friends. Users become very lonely as people like you who were happy to have been a real friend get thrown away. Is the replacement as good? By the time their chickens come home to roost, you'll have moved on to somebody who appreciates you. Hope you have good friends and other neighbours around.

[londone17]

It does make you more cautious and wary of bothering. I've actually said that if I move again I won't be bothering with my neighbours. It wasn't my mentality as I grew up in a very friendly village with excellent neighbours but there's been trouble with some where I live now for around ten years. Most people are okay in fairness and are also fed up with them but when returning home after working all day with housework to do on top of coping with health problems both DP and I have I can no longer put up with it. One of them ended up elderly and alone who regretted falling out with us when they couldn't manage but the door had been closed. It really is a pity and unfair on future people but behaviour breeds behaviour. Your neighbours will regret it.

[ssd]

thanks for answering girls

I know it sounds daft, but I'm annoyed by myself for bothering so much!

I can see my friend has more in common with the other neighbours, drinking all night, kids very similar in behaviour, but I had been friends with this person long long before the other neighbour decided she wanted her as a friend and now I have to sit in my garden at night listening to the 2 families out in one or other of their gardens bbq-ing and drinking wine and it makes me feel a bit lonely. The rest of the neighbours here are elderly so not many more friends to make here sadly. I have gone up to one of their get togethers in the past, saying hi I heard you all together, thought I'd join in, but was made to feel like what's she doing here, so I wont bother again.

I'm so not a cliquey person, I hate it when I see anyone being left out and I'd go out of my way to include them, that's why I made a friend of my neighbour, when she moved here no one spoke to her for years and we became friendly then, now this other neighbour has latched onto her and her family and I never see her now, just hear them all having parties........

oh well!