AIBU or even ridiculous to feel like I just don't fit in and never have.
It's really difficult to explain but I just feel as though there's noone out there like me who I can relate to I'm a single parent and I live in a council house but I really really want 'better' for myself but am probably not smart or educated enough to ever get to where I'd like to be.
I come from a massive family most (not all) of whom are long term unemployed and have drug/drink problems or severe mental health problems. When I was at school the kids who came from backgrounds like myself were all drinking, smoking, stealing cars and bunking off school and this was just not me. But the others kids all seemed to have lots of money and be off on holidays, doing family stuff or in school clubs and we never really did anything as a family. As I've got older I've distanced myself from most of my friends because they all had children but only seemed interested in going out drinking and sleeping about and wanted me to do the same as them.
I ended up in a violent relationship for a few years hence why I now rent from the council after I decided to leave. But I feel as though people will always look own on me and judge me as a single parent who lives in a council house everywhere I go I seem to hear the old stereotype and I feel plagued by it.
I've always worked with lovely people but once again just feel as though I never quite fit in as they are always going on about their mortgages and slagging off people who come from backgrounds like me and how people always get something for nothing.
I'm in a long term relationship with someone who is probably more similiar to me in a lot of ways interest wise. But he's from a really well off background and a perfect family and can in no way relate to the way I've been brought up or the experiences I've had. I find it really difficult to tolerate his family, on one hand they are lovely and are desperate to get to know me more but I feel totally out of place with them. They will make casual recist remarks about where I live they are completely fascinated about where I live and work. They are from a quiet nice little town where there is barely a brown face and I am from a big diverse city and work in the public sector for Social Services and they just keep going on about how it's a 'different world' and how it must be very PC where I work. I dread to think how they'd react if they met half of my family.
I'm sure I'll be told I've a massive chip on my shoulder but it's just how I've always felt, like people are always one extreme or another.
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anditwasallyellow · 23/07/2012 12:30
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