dd is 7, has good social skills and plenty of friends. I have always emphasised tolerance towards others, and she is naturally a very kind-hearted kid. I'm sure she has her moments, but she generally seems to get on well with everyone and doesn't often feel the need to be mean etc.
Anyway, two of her friends told her today that she and another friend were too "soft" to be cool. Apparently this means they are just too nice to other people.
Obviously, had a chat about how being cool wasn't really important etc., and how being mean to other people isn't cool in any case.
But the conversation has taken me right back to my own school when a certain group of girls thought they could elevate their own social status by being nasty to others. I remember so clearly that in those days, being bitchy was cool. :(
dd doesn't seem unduly bothered about the issue at present, but I know that the obsession with being "cool" is only going to get worse as they get older. What else can I say to her to prevent her from getting hurt by comments like this in the future, and how can I prevent her from getting sucked into this way of thinking and behaving?
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Jinsei · 27/06/2012 21:28
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